Work for a lifetime

[freedom33]

I have realised today that the relationship with my ex was the single most important thing that has happened to me. It has broken me in million pieces. I have suffered beyond my wildest imagination. I had two breakdowns and suffered from C-PTSD for a few months last year. This rs has also torned down the edifices I was building all these years - dreams laid on false foundations. In hindsight and I am only one month NC I can say that it has been a truly remarkable journey of discovery self and other.

I feel that I have learned in just one year what I have not found out over more than 30 years about relationships, myself and people in general. I was quite a brute before I met my ex - she certainly refined me through a baptism by fire. I know that my life has been already enriched and there's just so much material now for me work with over the years. And in some ways I am coming out a better man from it. The lord works in mysterious way. I do love her and I wish her well and peace.

[Blimblam]

I have my experience with my ex to be the most profound experience of my life as well.  More insightful than any lsd or mushroom trip. One thing I have experienced is as I work through inner core issues my ego will rise back up the surface only to sink back down into the muck to work through more core wounds.

[Moselle]

I have realised today that the relationship with my ex was the single most important thing that has happened to me. It has broken me in million pieces. I have suffered beyond my wildest imagination.

Thanks freedom. This is something I feel as well. I'm separated after 14 years of marriage. I read somewhere that we select a spouse similar to the parent, with whom we have the most unfinished business. In other words, we missed a developmental stage in our childhood, and we marry someone with whom we are trying to learn it...

Whether I can recover and still be married to her, is a question I'm battling with