I have realised today that the relationship with my ex was the single most important thing that has happened to me. It has broken me in million pieces. I have suffered beyond my wildest imagination.
Thanks freedom. This is something I feel as well. I'm separated after 14 years of marriage. I read somewhere that we select a spouse similar to the parent, with whom we have the most unfinished business. In other words, we missed a developmental stage in our childhood, and we marry someone with whom we are trying to learn it...
Whether I can recover and still be married to her, is a question I'm battling with