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« on: September 26, 2014, 02:43:24 PM » |
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So my ex actually messaged me I'm sorry!
She deleted me off all social networking.
I wonder if this just means she's indifferent about me. Like beyond black or white thinking just indifferent
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Bak86
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« Reply #1 on: September 26, 2014, 02:43:59 PM » |
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If she were indifferent she wouldn't even think about messaging you.
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« Reply #2 on: September 26, 2014, 02:45:12 PM » |
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I messaged her. She messaged me back to leave her alone and deleted me off everything said we can't be friends and even messaged "I'm sorry"
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« Reply #3 on: September 26, 2014, 02:48:01 PM » |
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I messaged her. She messaged me back to leave her alone and deleted me off everything said we can't be friends and even messaged "I'm sorry" Probably depends on why you messaged her. |
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« Reply #4 on: September 26, 2014, 02:49:36 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment.
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« Reply #5 on: September 26, 2014, 02:50:22 PM » |
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you are invoking shame
and are black
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« Reply #6 on: September 26, 2014, 02:51:13 PM » |
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It sounds like you are in the white for now. She sees the world and the people in it in the black and white areas. Difficult for her to see the grey.
Feelings are quicksilver. She's not indifferent. She may have a need or she's testing the waters.
Black, white. You can choose to be indifferent to it Blimblam.
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« Reply #7 on: September 26, 2014, 02:51:46 PM » |
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All her messages to me have been extremely polite. If I was black I would expect anger.
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« Reply #8 on: September 26, 2014, 02:53:15 PM » |
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If I was white why would she delete me from everything tell me we can't be friends and and "it doesn't really matter now it's time to move on"
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« Reply #9 on: September 26, 2014, 02:53:48 PM » |
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If she were indifferent she wouldn't even think about messaging you. ^^This exactly Is she saying sorry you cant be friends, sorry for deleting you from everything? Did you message her first and her response was to delete you and say leave me alone? What order did this happen in? |
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« Reply #10 on: September 26, 2014, 02:54:28 PM » |
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I messaged her first
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« Reply #11 on: September 26, 2014, 02:55:31 PM » |
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It's like she's not even angry just doesn't even care
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« Reply #12 on: September 26, 2014, 02:57:19 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment. Why did you send this message? |
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« Reply #13 on: September 26, 2014, 02:58:28 PM » |
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I mean yes the disorder but is their a point that's beyond black or white just indifference like nothing and permanently just like I never existed?
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« Reply #14 on: September 26, 2014, 02:58:51 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment. Why did you send this message? I don't know I just did. |
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« Reply #15 on: September 26, 2014, 03:01:01 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment. Why did you send this message? I don't know I just did. Were you reacting to something she said/did? |
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« Reply #16 on: September 26, 2014, 03:02:03 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment. Why did you send this message? I don't know I just did. Were you reacting to something she said/did? No she didn't reach out I did. |
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« Reply #17 on: September 26, 2014, 03:04:39 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment. Why did you send this message? I don't know I just did. It's a very painful thing to say... . |
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« Reply #18 on: September 26, 2014, 03:05:45 PM » |
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Her response was a very polite. We can't be friends I moved on i love you as a human being I moved on but none of that matters now. Them deleted me from all social network
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« Reply #19 on: September 26, 2014, 03:07:29 PM » |
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Her response was a very polite. We can't be friends I moved on i love you as a human being I moved on but none of that matters now. Them deleted me from all social network indifferent doesn't block all social media. You triggered her shame with a message you probably shouldn't of sent. Maybe she was polite because she didn't want you to know you hurt her. |
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« Reply #20 on: September 26, 2014, 03:07:57 PM » |
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I'm just wondering if this means I'm beyond black or white. That she just doesn't care at all.
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« Reply #21 on: September 26, 2014, 03:08:48 PM » |
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I messages I'm sorry if I hurt you
She messages I didn't hurt her and she is sorry
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« Reply #22 on: September 26, 2014, 03:09:28 PM » |
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I didn't hurt her. But none of that matters now
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« Reply #23 on: September 26, 2014, 03:10:25 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment. Why did you send this message? I don't know I just did. It's a very painful thing to say... . I take that message as invalidating to anybody, PD or not. You say don't know why you did, BB. Perhaps you expected a reaction. You got one. In your unpredictability, you got an unpredictable response. How can this be processed? Are you still trying to fix her? |
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« Reply #24 on: September 26, 2014, 03:12:09 PM » |
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I'm just wondering if this means I'm beyond black or white. That she just doesn't care at all. And what would it mean to you if she didn't care Blimblam? How would that feel? |
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« Reply #25 on: September 26, 2014, 03:12:29 PM » |
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I messaged her the relationships she's in will fail untill she decides to get treatment. Why did you send this message? I don't know I just did. It's a very painful thing to say... . I take that message as invalidating to anybody, PD or not. You say don't know why you did, BB. Perhaps you expected a reaction. You got one. In your unpredictability, you got an unpredictable response. How can this be processed? Are you still trying to fix her? I was. It was a dumb move. Does that mean I'm black? Or that she just trully indifferent like I don't exist. That's how it seems. Like beyond black or white |
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« Reply #26 on: September 26, 2014, 03:13:06 PM » |
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I'm just wondering if this means I'm beyond black or white. That she just doesn't care at all. And what would it mean to you if she didn't care Blimblam? How would that feel? I'd rather be black than mean nothing. |
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« Reply #27 on: September 26, 2014, 03:13:51 PM » |
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I'm just wondering if this means I'm beyond black or white. That she just doesn't care at all. And what would it mean to you if she didn't care Blimblam? How would that feel? I'd rather be black than mean nothing. That's not a feeling. That's a preference. |
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« Reply #28 on: September 26, 2014, 03:15:03 PM » |
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I'm just wondering if this means I'm beyond black or white. That she just doesn't care at all. And what would it mean to you if she didn't care Blimblam? How would that feel? I'd rather be black than mean nothing. That's not a feeling. That's a preference. The feeling is emptiness. It's depressing. |
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« Reply #29 on: September 26, 2014, 03:17:14 PM » |
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Do you guys think this means I'm painted black?
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