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Sent me horrible texts earlier this week and now is being "sweet and kind" again but not asking for anything from me. I'm finding it very unsettling. In the past he has quickly got to the point of what he needs from me (money, rescuing, sex, shoulder to cry on etc) but this time seemingly nothing.
Why would he contact is it just to keep the hooks in to make his new gf jealous?
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Just to add I'm not getting drawn back in just keeping cool and polite
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Keep your guard up. After two and half years, I am still caught off guard by the abrupt change from sweet to venomous.
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But what does he want? It's doing my head in
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A response. A reaction. Something to know you're still hooked or still grieving. Something to get mad at you about. Maybe he wants to recycle. Maybe he wants to make sure he's still in your head. Maybe he just wants to do your head in. I have no idea why they do the things they do. Every time mine does something that puts me back in the spin of trying to figure him out, I just have to keep reminding myself that it's ALL a mind ___.
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Thanks I guess your right no point messing my head up any further trying to figure out the madness!
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