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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« Reply #60 on: February 08, 2015, 05:57:49 PM »

Mine was different in the sense that she never went for a replacement, at least not a romantic one. It was months and years in between boyfriends for her. Likewise, she did not rage against me at all... .neither did we argue. She DID however, rage against her highly dysfunctional son. I believe that he is the third in triangulation and, conveniently/ironically, he moved back in with mom shortly after mom disappeared from my life. The 'replacement', as far as I was able to discern, is ordinarily a romantic interest but not all of the time. Whatever they can attach to that will fulfill their need seems to suffice. In my ex's case, she thrived on chaos... .her son was enough to feed a steady diet.
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« Reply #61 on: February 09, 2015, 12:01:40 AM »

What sucks about all this is that a few weeks before my exBPDgf broke up with me she told me how the thought of me being with another woman would drive her crazy. This of course was after some great sex that we had. Seems like that is so common with BPDs after reading so many of these posts. Long story short, she got mad at me for something really dumb and we broke up. Not long after and during the time we were working things out, she hooks up with my replacement. In a matter of a few days, the guy is practically moved in. When I brought up how she said that the thought of me being somebody would kill her, and then asked how she could do this, all she had to say was I know and I am sorry. What a kick in the groin. I'm guessing this guy has been around longer than she admits, what do you think?
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« Reply #62 on: February 09, 2015, 04:27:26 AM »

What sucks about all this is that a few weeks before my exBPDgf broke up with me she told me how the thought of me being with another woman would drive her crazy. This of course was after some great sex that we had. Seems like that is so common with BPDs after reading so many of these posts. Long story short, she got mad at me for something really dumb and we broke up. Not long after and during the time we were working things out, she hooks up with my replacement. In a matter of a few days, the guy is practically moved in. When I brought up how she said that the thought of me being somebody would kill her, and then asked how she could do this, all she had to say was I know and I am sorry. What a kick in the groin. I'm guessing this guy has been around longer than she admits, what do you think?

"What sucks about all this is that a few weeks before my exBPDgf broke up with me she told me how the thought of me being with another woman would drive her crazy."

What do I think?... .let me tell you what I know... .when she made the above statement to you she was already "with" the guy that replaced you.(she was projecting on you what she was actually doing... .always the veiled threats once the replacement is there... .you were supposed to know she was doing this by- the-way... .in her mind) ... .and unknown to you she was on a total power trip. For my ex it was vital for her to have the ultimate safety, power and control of another person for her to break up with me and all of those before me. These people are extremely weak and needy. They HAVE to have a power source... .and once it isn't you... .lookout. You get to meet the angry, abusive "stranger". That's actually her BTW.  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #63 on: February 09, 2015, 10:37:58 AM »

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