I noticed she unblocked me from FB tonight.

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

She is obviously snooping me. I typed in K in search and her name popped up. Had been blocked for 2 weeks. Should I take this opportunity to block HER?

[Xidion]

She is obviously snooping me. I typed in K in search and her name popped up. Had been blocked for 2 weeks. Should I take this opportunity to block HER?

[evilpepsi]

post about life being good. throw up some happy stuff. make her think that she never existed in your head... .

[peiper]

Block her and be done with the games man.

[evilpepsi]

even if you block her she will still find a way to snoop. they always do... .

[almosthadme]

My ex unblocked after 7 months and that was in July.Still have had no contact she can creep all she wants. I disagree with blocking that is the reaction she is looking for don't give her the satisfaction. Not to mention she could create another account. Just lock it down if you don't want her seeing anything.

[enlighten me]

Blocking should be about you and your needs not for aggrevating them. If you share friends and you dont want them popping up then block them.

[Xidion]

It's messing with me bad. And when I left my cousins place tonight (my cousins wife is my ex's best friend) She was driving by, stopped in the middle of the road as I was going out the door, then drove off. What the heck.

[almosthadme]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

[Xidion]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

[peiper]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

[Infared]

Block her and be done with the games man.

+1000

[Xidion]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks.

[evilpepsi]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

doesn't matter... .

I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks.

[peiper]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks.

Remember we're talking mental illness. We logically look at things, they don't , they have an emotional trigger and they obsess over it and then start planning what their going to do if abandoned. Having five or six splits from mine there was no set time before she started to try to come back. Anywhere from a couple of weeks to months.

[Xidion]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks.

Remember we're talking mental illness. We logically look at things, they don't , they have an emotional trigger and they obsess over it and then start planning what their going to do if abandoned. Having five or six splits from mine there was no set time before she started to try to come back. Anywhere from a couple of weeks to months.

I know. The reason I don't think she will actually engage is because just 2 weeks ago she said things like "he is an upgrade, you never treated me good, never contact me again, I don't want you anymore".

[evilpepsi]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

I highly doubt it. It's only been 5 weeks.

Remember we're talking mental illness. We logically look at things, they don't , they have an emotional trigger and they obsess over it and then start planning what their going to do if abandoned. Having five or six splits from mine there was no set time before she started to try to come back. Anywhere from a couple of weeks to months.

I know. The reason I don't think she will actually engage is because just 2 weeks ago she said things like "he is an upgrade, you never treated me good, never contact me again, I don't want you anymore".

how was she treating you two weeks prior to the split?

[Xidion]

Like normal really. I didn't see anything coming. She only started treating me bad once I found out she was talking to this dude behind my back. We were having sex regularly,  etc. Told me she loved me after breaking up with me, even.

[Xidion]

Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left.

[fromheeltoheal]

I know. The reason I don't think she will actually engage is because just 2 weeks ago she said things like "he is an upgrade, you never treated me good, never contact me again, I don't want you anymore".

Hearing things like that is optional; are you taking steps to not subject yourself to that anymore?

[evilpepsi]

Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left.

see what can happen in the span of two weeks? it can reverse that quickly also. when i was dating the first BPD, it took around 2-3 weeks for the first recycle... .

[peiper]

Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left.

Mine began devaluing right after we we're married. In a way I think it's a mental thing to soften the blow on them when they leave. Its a lot easier to leave someone you have yourself convinced is no good. So they build it up in their mind.

[Xidion]

Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left.

see what can happen in the span of two weeks? it can reverse that quickly also. when i was dating the first BPD, it took around 2-3 weeks for the first recycle... .

It would be insane for her to try a recycle after officially being "in a relationship" with this dude on FB. We've been no contact for 11 days. The longest it's been. Her family hates me, I know that for sure. She has everyone convinced I'm the devil. I can't wrap my head around crazy. I guess I'm so curious because I do still love the b*tch, even after her showing who she really is. I'm not hoping for anything, but I would love to know what the heck she is up to.

[evilpepsi]

you could be in my situation bro. it could be very confusing and exhausting. my ex went through my phone and saw old texts between me and the woman that i dated before her. this chick is a hot blonde erotica author, kimber dawn, and my ex threw her in my face. she and her npd bf STILL throw her in my face. the npd does it because he tried to date kimber and she flat out shot him down. it seems to kill his ego that i pulled her and the self-proclaimed "legend" couldn't.

together, they are fueling my recovery because the more that they do this, the more indifferent that i become to the both of them, and the more that i move forward.

i stopped asking myself why is she so fixated on this woman and why does it constantly come up? they both lie and claim that they have talked to kimber and she is now enraged because she is tired of her name coming out of their mouths.

im not being smeared, but sometimes i think that i would rather settle for smearing than this, hahaha... .

[peiper]

Looking back I can only remember any devaluing that happened was 2-3 days before she left.

see what can happen in the span of two weeks? it can reverse that quickly also. when i was dating the first BPD, it took around 2-3 weeks for the first recycle... .

It would be insane for her to try a recycle after officially being "in a relationship" with this dude on FB. We've been no contact for 11 days. The longest it's been. Her family hates me, I know that for sure. She has everyone convinced I'm the devil. I can't wrap my head around crazy. I guess I'm so curious because I do still love the b*tch, even after her showing who she really is. I'm not hoping for anything, but I would love to know what the heck she is up to.

Key word" insane" . I'm in the very same place you are, even more so. Restraining Order and divorced. I talked to my T about this months ago when I was still hoping we could work things out. What he told me makes sense now. He said that she would get such an ego boost if she could lure me back after everything that she's pulled . It would give her momentary worth. He was right.

[Splitblack4good]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying

Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther.

What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend .

[evilpepsi]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

maybe being able to see both of you at the same time kind of shook her back some? just a thought... .

I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying

Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther.

What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend .

[evilpepsi]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying

Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther.

What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend .

maybe being able to see both of you at the same time kind of shook her back some? just a thought... .

[Splitblack4good]

The first few months is hell but be strong and she will go away and sink her claws in another.I won't lie a year out and its still hard and I want nothing to do with her... .such a weird thing.

Funny thing is, she is in a relationship with the guy she lined up before leaving me.

It's probably not working out so she's lining up a spare, you.

I'm glad this came up today my ex couldnt wait to block me on her phone yesturday then I bumped into her at a mutuel freinds house with my replacement ! Then at half 1 in the morning I got a text from her saying

Sorry about that tonite Paul didnt say you were ther.

What the heck ! Lol she had blocked me no more that 8 hours prior to this and the fact she said sorry ! I didn't reply they are strange it's like it never happend .

maybe being able to see both of you at the same time kind of shook her back some? just a thought... .

I'm not sure tbh she had done a good job of avoiding me since we split maybe out of sight out of mind but then seeing me did mean something to her pass I don't know . We had massive argument on the phone 8 hours befor that then blocks me then sees me un blocks me and says sorry we bumped into each other .

[evilpepsi]

what im saying is that maybe a face to face comparison of you and newbie set something off in her that has her wondering. make sense?

[BorisAcusio]

Block her and be done with the games man.

We've done this game for over 7 months after BU, eventually followed by a recycle. Whatever you think, the only way to "win" is to be out of this.