Severe vs. moderate BPD - thoughts, facts, stories, ideas?

[Depression = 72% of members]

My BPDexgf was severe.

I am undoubtedly, after experiencing our interaction, sure that I am uBPD as well. My current girlfriend, who is in fact my former girlfriend, childhood sweetheart and apparently is attracted to pwBPD (that's me - entering my own recycle - ouch) believes I am uBPD/N. I can't deny it. It's just that after dealing with my BPDexgf, I know I'm not nearly like her. I would agree that I am mild to moderate. Does that make sense? I, myself, feel split BPD/Codependent. I've been on both sides.

My question is this. How do I convince my current (CS) that I am not "severe?" I am in no way that disordered, but I carry many behaviors, traits, thinking, zoning, grandiose, insecure, abusive, entitlement, envy, self loathing, hater, low-functioning, addict, just many traits... .a few I love you - dump and run(s) and a fair amount of cheating, ego driven AND a lust for Nsupply.

I'm in therapy now, but I still want my sweet childhood love back... .I'm having impulse control problems with her already and it sucks~


2015!  

[Sandman1881]

My BPDexgf was severe.

I am undoubtedly, after experiencing our interaction, sure that I am uBPD as well. My current girlfriend, who is in fact my former girlfriend, childhood sweetheart and apparently is attracted to pwBPD (that's me - entering my own recycle - ouch) believes I am uBPD/N. I can't deny it. It's just that after dealing with my BPDexgf, I know I'm not nearly like her. I would agree that I am mild to moderate. Does that make sense? I, myself, feel split BPD/Codependent. I've been on both sides.

My question is this. How do I convince my current (CS) that I am not "severe?" I am in no way that disordered, but I carry many behaviors, traits, thinking, zoning, grandiose, insecure, abusive, entitlement, envy, self loathing, hater, low-functioning, addict, just many traits... .a few I love you - dump and run(s) and a fair amount of cheating, ego driven AND a lust for Nsupply.

I'm in therapy now, but I still want my sweet childhood love back... .I'm having impulse control problems with her already and it sucks~


2015!  

[Mutt]

Did you mention to your T in a session you think you may have BPD or a PD?

[Sandman1881]

I did.

[Mutt]

I did.

My BPDexgf was severe.

I am undoubtedly, after experiencing our interaction, sure that I am uBPD as well. My current girlfriend, who is in fact my former girlfriend, childhood sweetheart and apparently is attracted to pwBPD (that's me - entering my own recycle - ouch) believes I am uBPD/N. I can't deny

I'm sorry. A break-up can feel confusing. I can relate. I asked myself the same question "Am I BPD?" I was under the impression these were your thoughts and perhaps you hadn't discussed BPD with your T. What did your T say when you asked if you were BPD?

[maxen]

hi also Sandman.

My question is this. How do I convince my current (CS) that I am not "severe?"

she already believes you to have BPD. does her choice hinge on the severity of it? and do you think that you can have a secure r/s with her?