Histrionic HPD girlfriend

[bobbyg]

Need help leaving a lying maniplitive HPD girlfriend with a violent history with a past boyfriend

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[vortex of confusion]

 

Welcome to the boards! I am not sure how much BPD and HPD are related. I do know that there is a lot of overlap in the different personality disorders.

I think the tools on the right side of the forum have lots of helpful information. If you are wanting to leave, you might check out the lessons on the Leaving Board.

How long have you been with your girlfriend? I am sure that there are people here that can give you some insights and pointers.

[Suzn]

Hi bobbyg

Welcome to bpdfamily.com.

What happened?

[Mutt]

Hi bobbyg,



We're here to help.

[jammo1989]

Need help leaving a lying maniplitive HPD girlfriend with a violent history with a past boyfriend

Welcome to the forum Bobby, I know quite a bit about the HPD side of the spectrum, as my ex was HPD as well, what would you like to know? Just post us all your questions and ill answer a

Each of them individual best I can.

[Infern0]

Hpd doesn't seem to be covered as much as BPD but there's a lot of crossover.  I'm sure we can offer some help

[Stalwart]

Bobby it seems as though you've already made up you mind to leave so that would seem to be a place to start.

Fear is a terrible and dark place to live. Fear of dysregualtion, lashing out, how it may affect your future or interfere with your life if she does.

I know the feeling. It's a place I sank to for a short time a long while back. It was also the place where I found recognition that I had to move forward and not allow fear to be a contingent in my decision making.

What do you think the repercussions to your leaving would be, that you fear them so much?

[Turkish]

Hi bobbyg,

That your gf has a history of violence is concerning. Do you live together? Has she exhibited any violent tendencies at all, even if she's never touched you (like throwing things)? It's good too have a real life safety support system in place, so, if not an outright safety plan. We can help you work through these things. Please keep us updated, bobbyg.

Turkish