New mistake I've made. Talking on fb to one of her friends. I asked her to let me know if anything happens that I should know of. She told me that she thinks my ex is NOT affected the way I am. Hearing that kinda sent me to a HORRIBLE place. Help!
I made that mistake "once", too. I talked to her best friend and workmate, in person. We both go to meetings of a self-help group. She showed up at a popular meeting club in my home area and we both liked one another as people and I saw her and it was not good, I was in a lot of pain and was asking about my ex who met her new supply through work while she was living with me. So I do not know how much this person knew about the cheating and I felt rather desperate and foolish after I talked to her. I was absolute NC at the time...
A couple weeks later she spotted me at the same place and went out of her way to come up and talk to me... .And I said "name, it isn't very healthy for me to engage in conversation with you. Nothing personal." I then walked out of the room and out the front door. I had a feeling of empowerment and sensed that I was taking care of me. My T approved!
As painful as it was, I just had to distance myself from the whole mess... .anything else was gruesome for me.
