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Tim300
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« on: July 03, 2015, 07:05:22 AM » |
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If you could give one word of advice for Nons, with respect to BPD, what word would you choose?
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Beach_Babe
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« Reply #1 on: July 03, 2015, 07:08:15 AM » |
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Run. Lol
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123Phoebe
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« Reply #2 on: July 03, 2015, 07:09:42 AM » |
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Sunfl0wer
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« Reply #3 on: July 03, 2015, 07:35:48 AM » |
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Above all... .
Self care, self love
(A whole sentence may be needed to convey a thought... .or the thought may be missed?)
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How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.~Anais Nin
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Pretty Woman
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« Reply #4 on: July 03, 2015, 08:31:33 AM » |
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1) trust your gut
2) if this person has had a substantially crazier romantic life than you rest assured you will be another sideshow in their circus. Get out now.
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Picking myself off the canvas for the last time!
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« Reply #5 on: July 03, 2015, 08:33:28 AM » |
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Wake-Up!
As in start evaluating things with your head and not your heart. It was very hard for mE as my uBPDxw had me so mind F¥€KED that I truly believe that I was brain washed. I still feel like I have PTSD symptoms from coming to the reality that there was no REALITY with who she portrayed herself to be. Waking up so the FOG will start to lift.
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The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. (Psalm 34:18, 19)
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« Reply #6 on: July 03, 2015, 08:39:10 AM » |
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If we feel compelled to be the white knight, let us be the white knight to ourselves.
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« Reply #7 on: July 03, 2015, 08:43:14 AM » |
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Detach
Forgive
Find compassion
OK, that was more than one word; your rules are so tough Tim! But hey, at least now I can get a word in edgewise... .
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« Reply #8 on: July 03, 2015, 08:47:40 AM » |
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Let go
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Mutt
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« Reply #9 on: July 03, 2015, 10:46:31 AM » |
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Radical acceptance.
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« Reply #10 on: July 03, 2015, 10:57:43 AM » |
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Trust your gut. I remember feeling like an unwanted guest in my own home. Love shouldn't be like that Just want to say this is an awesome thread. Reminds me that with knowledge, healing and moving on are within grasp! So thanks everyone  Happy Independence Day Weekend everyone! |
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« Reply #11 on: July 03, 2015, 12:22:30 PM » |
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Have no expectations
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« Reply #12 on: July 03, 2015, 01:01:30 PM » |
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But at what point? Before, or during relationship if any?
Going into a RS with the knowledge that the person has BPD because they were up front. I'd have to say, enter at your own risk and educate yourself.
Already being in a RS without the knowledge that the person has BPD because they didn't know or lied to you. I'd have to say, educate yourself and evaluate if the risks are worth staying. (I'd wanna say run for the hills, but saying that to someone in love may only make them resent your opinion)
We can also be killed crossing the street.
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« Reply #13 on: July 03, 2015, 03:47:22 PM » |
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Self-respect.
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« Reply #14 on: July 03, 2015, 04:11:46 PM » |
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It would be interesting to take these words of advice for the non-disordered and make a word cloud with a site like wordle. The more a word shows up it gives it more prominence.
I'd be interested to see what that word cloud looks like.
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« Reply #15 on: July 03, 2015, 04:25:36 PM » |
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Boundaries!
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"Have you ever looked fear in the face and just said, I just don't care" -Pink
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« Reply #17 on: July 03, 2015, 05:09:14 PM » |
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self-love
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disillusionedandsore
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« Reply #18 on: July 04, 2015, 12:49:34 AM » |
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Read up on abuse
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FannyB
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« Reply #19 on: July 04, 2015, 01:49:22 AM » |
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Don't!
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