One thing I think might be bothering me atm is whether my ex actually has BPD? I guess it's because for so long I didn't know so went about other ways of explaining her behaviour. Plus I had the horrible experience of seeing a counsellor for a while who asked me to buy a book about abusive, controlling men. Very much trying to make out that I was the abusive one. This was before I even discovered BPD so it was a different scenario then. All I had was what happened but no real understanding as to why.
I understand. A person that changes reality often is a sign of mental illness. We're not qualified to diagnose and what we can do is look at traits, characteristics of the borderline personality types.
I'm assuming that she could hold it together when you're in front of other people? BPD is an invisible disorder and the acting out is directed at people that become intimate with a pwBPD.
PD's are complex and it sounds like your counselor wasn't trained on personality disorders and was blaming you for her behaviors. It must of been very frustrating trying to explain your circumstances and not being heard.
My ex partner is not diagnosed and if I explained her behaviors with friends, family members, T's etc... they were looking at it from the perspective that she is healthy.
My family members would tell me "well you must of done something!"
I can understand how isolating that can feel when you're going through something that others may not have answers for. It's hard when you don't have someone to turn to. It helps to talk to people that can relate.
Yeah I will keep her blocked because it definately makes me anxious imagining her image might pop up.
