Yes I am planning on splitting up and yes the co-ownership of the house is the biggest obstacle. I have a d9 who lives with us from my previous marriage. My UBPDbf r fuses to leave and has threatened to destroy me. So, I'm getting financially stable so I ca deal with a battle, cuz I believe the minute I say I'm done he will get very nasty.
Ughhh, sorry to hear he's being so nasty about it. It sounds like it will be a struggle to get him out. It might be hard but not impossible, and it will probably be the best thing for you since you're planning to end the relationship. Good for you in planning ahead by getting your finances ready. It's often said that you need to be quiet and try not to let him know at all what you're planning or doing, that way he cannot sabotage what he doesn't know about.
You may find some good advice on the
Family Law, divorce, and custody board even though you're not married and your and his kids are not in a blended family.
Please be patient, take care of yourself, and plan your exit wisely. It's okay to feel guilty, yet you deserve the best, and kudos to you for taking the steps needed to live the good life you fully deserve!