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Lishab23

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« on: August 17, 2015, 06:23:34 PM »

So I go check my email and he has sent a new one saying HI! If you what some back ground check out other posts please! What does he want after the last set of emails I didn't think I'd hear from him again. I did send one back that said hi and his reply hey? Should I ignore ugh why do they do this to us, kinda confused today?
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« Reply #1 on: August 18, 2015, 12:30:22 AM »

Hi Lishab23,

I can see how that would be confusing. Did you ignore or respond after he replied with "hey"?
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« Reply #2 on: August 18, 2015, 01:17:41 AM »

I feel like it's a conspiracy theory to make me go mad!
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« Reply #3 on: August 18, 2015, 05:54:30 PM »

Thank you for taking the time to read and reply. Yes I did reply after the hey and said "what's up" have had no response yet. If he's so happy and living with my replacment why talk to me knowing she will get very upset if he talks to me? I've contemplated on texting her and letting her know, we have each others numbers I know she'd text me if she knew, well I think she would Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)! It's confusing to say the least, hasn't brought me down really just confusion and a little bit of relief knowing he hasn't changed a bit smh!
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« Reply #4 on: August 18, 2015, 06:27:18 PM »

The behaviors of a pwBPD is confusing. I think he wanted to see if you were going to respond. I'm sharing from my experience, my ex was in a committed r/s and testing my attachment, she can't live alone and needs an emotional caretaker.

I understand wanting to tell her. If you text her you could find yourself in a triangle.
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« Reply #5 on: August 18, 2015, 08:59:03 PM »

Thank you mutt you are very right, nothing good can come from telling her anything! She still has her blinders on she still thinks he's her white knight even after cheating and lying to her! So I will let them be and for myselfaybe not respond anymore to his emails. I just want him gone for good no more rollercoasters for me!
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« Reply #6 on: August 18, 2015, 09:07:06 PM »

Your right. Let things play out on their own. We all make our own choices and we learn from our poor choices and we can make wiser choices.

It helps to take care ourselves with limiting contact and we can become emotionally healthier and we can choose to answer or not answer at a later time. For now, you say you want to get off the rollercoaster  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #7 on: August 18, 2015, 09:11:52 PM »

Sounds like just checking to see if you are still there and available... .I made mistakes of giving mine advice and then he took it and then I was mad! I just need to leave him alone to make his own decisions. Mine is in a r/s as well, yet he is still asking me for lots of help... .He should be counting on her not me! So frustrating and keeps you hooked.

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