I've separated from my BPD wife 6 months ago and had no contact. She has violated the restraining order by taking property that is premarital and hidden company property as well as trying to sell marital assets. She's dating a downgrade, drinking heavily, returned to smoking and using illegal drugs.
The first month after I left, she tried every form of manipulation to get me back or at least engage in a conversation. Legal threats, guilt, medical problems, kids, elderly parents... .you name it, she tried it.
What will be in my future dealings with her once the divorce is final? She has no ability to budget money, doesn't want to work, has very volatile history with friends, coworkers, clients when she's put on the spot.
Any advice would be helpful... .
Welcome StumpyD
I am sorry that you are going through this.
Divorce is hard. Divorce from a BPD has additional challenges. The process can be draining. The most important thing is taking care of yourself during the divorce and remember that it will be over soon.
Your situation is similar to mine with my stbxh ... .replacements, drinking, drugs, money pr9blems ... .manipulation, fear and guilt.
I expect very little future dealings post divorce, as our children are just reaching 18, and he has already made it clear they are not part of his future.
Alimony will be the only obligation he'll have to me and that can be dealt with without personal contact.
I will have no obligation to him. I cannot help him or fix him.
I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it.