do they find u... yes

[Depression = 72% of members]

Phone call tonight ... 20 years later

After the smallm talk ... How did u find me?Her words its wasn't easy... hired a  PRIVATE INVISTAGATOR

[brokenbyothers]

Phone call tonight ... 20 years later

After the smallm talk ... How did u find me?Her words its wasn't easy... hired a  PRIVATE INVISTAGATOR

[Invictus01]

Phone call tonight ... 20 years later

After the smallm talk ... How did u find me?Her words its wasn't easy... hired a  PRIVATE INVISTAGATOR

Priceless! That's where you go - "Um, gotta go! My goldfish just died... .no, my hamster just fell off his wheel... .no, <insert whatever reason you can find to end the conversation and run away as fast and far as possible>" 

[JerryRG]

Lol Invictus01

[gotbushels]

Phone call tonight ... 20 years later

After the smallm talk ... How did u find me?Her words its wasn't easy... hired a  PRIVATE INVISTAGATOR

I'm stunned. I'm laughing and crying at the same time. I think that's seriously funny but you seriously need to look after yourself. Not really sure how to respond to this but I support your privacy. Take care.

[sweet tooth]

Further proof of my theory that at some point or another, they ALWAYS come back!

[sweet tooth]

How did you respond? How do you feel? What are your wishes with this?

[Confused108]

RUNNNNNNN! !

[Stripey77]

That is ... .staggering. I mean wow.

[troisette]

Blimey, that is truly scary.

 

What are you going to do?

[brokenbyothers]

So after she told me about all of her multiple relationships and marriages that failed, and 2 kids (not mine) later, she said had never stopped thinking about me. She even knows where I live now and wants to come visit. I kept the phone call brief, told her Im working in and out of town and Its only a mailing address. She has been texting me daily, multiple times since she made contact. U know for all of us who don't already know... we want to believe their words... theyve changed ,they really love us ... .but we all know the truth! BPD sux! had some really great times with her but I cant go back down that road again.

[Herodias]

That's really sad... .They say they remember the exes from way back. I think I would rather be remembered as a nice person they loved than be a current person they hate. Be strong- are you involved with anyone now?

[brokenbyothers]

to Herodias. no I actually got involved with a diagnosed ptsd asd schitofrenic and some other disorders a few years ago. but all her symptoms pointed to BPD. I was with her for 3.5 yrs. shes pregnant now with someones child. It took me years to recover from her, almost lost my business and life, but im slowly recovering. I really enjoy the peace and quiet of not having to check my phone for a missed call or text. somehow when my ex from 20yrs ago contacted me a few days ago and keeps contacting me I find myself checking my phone again. I don't respond ,but its triggering , and I realized I don't want that in my life

[RecycledNoMore]

Further proof of my theory that at some point or another, they ALWAYS come back!

I have recently started visiting BPD family again after recent contact with the ex after 3 years...

[JerryRG]

I want to run

I want to hide

I want off this crazy ride.

I tried to walk

I tried to run

I cannot because we share a son.

I would love nothing more than to expell my exBPDgf from my life, my mind, my heart, but that would mean abandoning my son.

Blah  :'(

[Confused108]

So after she told me about all of her multiple relationships and marriages that failed, and 2 kids (not mine) later, she said had never stopped thinking about me. She even knows where I live now and wants to come visit. I kept the phone call brief, told her Im working in and out of town and Its only a mailing address. She has been texting me daily, multiple times since she made contact. U know for all of us who don't already know... we want to believe their words... theyve changed ,they really love us ... .but we all know the truth! BPD sux! had some really great times with her but I cant go back down that road again.

When I say Run... .RUN and fast! You like I have just a little similar story. My ex was my first love ... .First kiss. We were 12 yo friends back in 85/1986. Then in 1987 we started to fall for eachother. Dated for a month and then my Mom found out didn't like her and broke it off. Told my ex I was dating another person and threatened her. Well long story short my ex 8 months after that was commited into a mental hospital and became what she still is to this day. A Monster. I tried getting her back bc I loved her and was not dating anyone else. My mom lied to her but she at first loved me then didn't . Push / pull . She then painted me black. Absolutely Hated me . The. I never saw her again. Until 2013 she found me on FB. Knew everything about me. Knew where I lived I had a son etc etc. I at first sat on her FB friends request bc I remember the heartache she caused me. This girl was the love of my life. I didn't know if I could let her in if only as a friend. So weeks later (Stupid ME) accepted her request. We spoke and again knew everything about me. She got in contact with a mutual friend we had as teens and pumped her. My ex told me she was married now sperated. My ex moved to Canada with her husband and was not thinking of moving back to NY. Then after a few min she wanted to talk about my Mom screaming at her! After 26 years! I said to her let's forget that. I'm so sorry blah blah and she dropped it. Well from 2013 Feb to June of 2015 she would Always initiate contact thru FB. I never once messaged her or anything else. She was always  wanting to talk to message me. And when we did talk it would always go back to Did you know your Mom yelled at me? I would always cut her to the quick bc I felt it was not about my Mom ... .Yelling at her. It was a way of her brining up our relationship. I kept her at bay for 2 1/2 years. My ex in Feb of 2014 invited me to spend 10 days with her at her apt In Canada. I told her I just could not go. I have my own buisness and I was busy. Well after that I did hear from her much and later found out she meet a guy online who I guess took my spot and spent 10 days with her from Dec 2014 u til Jan 2015. Well fast foreword June 2015 I made a comment on one of her posts on FB and here we go. My ex started messaging me late at night about her neighbor across the way was sitting naked at her computer etc. . Crazy stuff. So I would respond sorry. Then she started that talk again. The one that involved my Mom. I said to her what is it that you need to say now. I'm sorry for what happen. My ex then told me like yours did I k ow that she loved me? And now after all those years she still was in love with me. I could NOT believe what she just said. I told her I couldn't do this now. I was married but my marriage was rocky. We were looking to sperate. My ex told me she had to bury her feelings for me to survive and never thought about me all those years until she came back into my life. Well to make a long story short. I was Suckered back into a Hellish Nightmare. My ex was the same girl who became mentally ill when we were broken up . But now it seems she was worse. I got push/ pull within a week. I got texts telling me she was not interested anymore. I was accused of flirting with friends on my FB page. She told me lies of how her brother molested her as a kid and one of her boyfriends Raped her. As she told me this lie she delete them off her friends list. She told me so many lies that idis t know where lies at the time. So after she broke my heart again and owned my soul she discarded me Sept 4 of last year . Her excuse... .She found as adults it was very hard to communicate with me. And that break up was they an email at 245 am. I called her at 430 am asking her Wtf is going on Dint you love me? Stupid question to ask a BPD. No her reply was I don't love you. I only love you as a friend and not romantically . I don't know why I ever said that to you in the 1st place. Then she began to ramble and say in my next relationship. I cut her off and said I'm done and slammed my phone down. That was a Friday morning. I went right to my cell and got on FB and deleted her off my FB page. Then came the games. She would stalk my FB page . She told me herself she was on it and now said she could never love me bc some of the things I said in FB were aimed at her. She pranked my phone. I've gotten fake FB messages. The last one was a hoot. The name was Gift Love and their Profile pic was a picture that said Heart Injured. Lol! So here is what happened to me by letting my ex back in and had no idea what she was until I found this site. My ex told me she is bipolar. But I believe she has been misdiagnosed. So the moral of this story is unless you want your heart ripped out and serves to you on a silver platter ... .don't let them Back IN! Good luck my friend! I wish someone had warned me about the girl I once loved. Who unfortunalty is now gone. Oh yea forgot to mention guess who is back on her FB page? Yup the molesting brother and the rapping boyfriend! Yes all lies!

[Herodias]

to Herodias. no I actually got involved with a diagnosed ptsd asd schitofrenic and some other disorders a few years ago. but all her symptoms pointed to BPD. I was with her for 3.5 yrs. shes pregnant now with someones child. It took me years to recover from her, almost lost my business and life, but im slowly recovering. I really enjoy the peace and quiet of not having to check my phone for a missed call or text. somehow when my ex from 20yrs ago contacted me a few days ago and keeps contacting me I find myself checking my phone again. I don't respond ,but its triggering , and I realized I don't want that in my life

.   I completely understand... .I'm right there with you. No interest in dating. My last boyfriend was a drug addict that I spent 8 years "helping"... .Then this one for 9/10. I dated a bipolar guy before that and a sex addict before that! My first boyfriend in high school was controlling and jealous. I don't see the point anymore. Other than I hope I have learned by now what to look for, I am convinced im not supposed to be with anyone for now. It's a sad state of affairs... .

[hope2727]

Wow.

Just wow.

So I guess they do think of us after all.

[sweet tooth]

to Herodias. no I actually got involved with a diagnosed ptsd asd schitofrenic and some other disorders a few years ago. but all her symptoms pointed to BPD. I was with her for 3.5 yrs. shes pregnant now with someones child. It took me years to recover from her, almost lost my business and life, but im slowly recovering. I really enjoy the peace and quiet of not having to check my phone for a missed call or text. somehow when my ex from 20yrs ago contacted me a few days ago and keeps contacting me I find myself checking my phone again. I don't respond ,but its triggering , and I realized I don't want that in my life

Just out of curiosity, did you break up with the woman 20 years ago or did she break up with you?

[sweet tooth]

Further proof of my theory that at some point or another, they ALWAYS come back!

I have recently started visiting BPD family again after recent contact with the ex after 3 years...

I'm curious as to when mine will attempt to reconnect... .Ugghhhh... .the discard was (and still is after 2 and a half months) so painful... .

[gotbushels]

My ex told me she had to bury her feelings for me to survive and never thought about me all those years until she came back into my life. Well to make a long story short. I was Suckered back into a Hellish Nightmare. My ex was the same girl who became mentally ill when we were broken up . But now it seems she was worse. I got push/ pull within a week. I got texts telling me she was not interested anymore. I was accused of flirting with friends on my FB page. She told me lies of how her brother molested her as a kid and one of her boyfriends Raped her. As she told me this lie she delete them off her friends list. She told me so many lies that idis t know where lies at the time. So after she broke my heart again and owned my soul she discarded me Sept 4 of last year . Her excuse... .She found as adults it was very hard to communicate with me. And that break up was they an email at 245 am. I called her at 430 am asking her Wtf is going on Dint you love me? Stupid question to ask a BPD.

(... .)

Yes all lies!

I'm curious--how did you find out she was lying? I found out various things by confronting her directly toward the end of the relationship. I'm curious because I've been reading a few cases of treatments involving a history of sexual abuse. My ex lied about a lot of things, lucky I took steps... .

But I believe she has been misdiagnosed. So the moral of this story is unless you want your heart ripped out and serves to you on a silver platter ... .don't let them Back IN! Good luck my friend! I wish someone had warned me about the girl I once loved. Who unfortunalty is now gone.

Good lesson.

[Notsurewhattothinkofthis]

Phone call tonight ... 20 years later

After the smallm talk ... How did u find me?Her words its wasn't easy... hired a  PRIVATE INVISTAGATOR

Damn. It's almost scary. It really seems they don't forget you.