Called the cops..

[yoyo1221]

I was currently doing no contact with my stbexBPD wife.  I broke that because there were some documents that I needed and told her about it.   I came by to pick up the documents because she agreed.  When I came, she called the police and told them I hit her.  The police believed my side of the story, made her give me my belongings and told me to becareful with that person. The police officer said he deals with this kind of stuff all the time so he knew I was telling the truth.  He said if it had been a young police officer not experienced in this kind of situation, I would have been handcuffed and sent to jail...    

Why would they do this?  She tried to deliberately hurt me...   I'm so lucky that officer was so understanding...   Has anyone had similar situations? 

[Mutt]

Hi yoyo1221,

Calling the cops is a quick way to triangulate someone. You're lucky you had an experienced cop, I suggest listen to his wisdom.

[tammym1972]

I think BPD people love to call the cops, maybe because they thrive on drama? My exBPDbf called them about anything. A strange car on the road, call the cops. Now that we are broken up he threatens to call them on me. I just texted him and let him know I found some of his movies in with mine. He threatens to call the cops for harassment. It is literally crazy!

[yoyo1221]

Hi yoyo1221,

Calling the cops is a quick way to triangulate someone. You're lucky you had an experienced cop, I suggest listen to his wisdom.

Hi Mutt,

Yes, I have decided to completely listen to his advice.  Didn't think she would go that far... .

[yoyo1221]

I think BPD people love to call the cops, maybe because they thrive on drama? My exBPDbf called them about anything. A strange car on the road, call the cops. Now that we are broken up he threatens to call them on me. I just texted him and let him know I found some of his movies in with mine. He threatens to call the cops for harassment. It is literally crazy!

Hi tammym1972,

Wow... that would drive anyone crazy... Yea, I agree they do thrive on drama.

[Turkish]

I'm on California.  

Christmas night,  my ex and her probable stbxh called the cops on each other for DV. Lucky for one or both of them, they got a veteran officer,  who told them,  "I've been on a lot of these calls over the years.  If we have to come back,  one or both of you will be arrested."

Last night,  I talked to my buddy's step dad,  a retired cop. I told him the story and the background, briefly.  He said that they were both lucky given what are normally mandatory arrest protocols. He said that an arrest for DV stays on your record.  

Your stbxw has demonstrated what she will do.  You know that you can never put yourself in such a situation again,  no matter how sweet she may sound,  right? This sucks, but it's the reality of protecting your life as you know it.  

[kentavr3]

ExBPDwf fight with my mom (74 years old) called cops. I was in the office away that time. 1 hour after she filed PO against me and my mom. PO was denied by female judge.

[lovenature]

Why would they do this?  She tried to deliberately hurt me...  

They do this because of how you fit into the reality they are in based on their current emotion of the moment, this is why one minute everything is going fine, then the next minute they are raging over something completely inappropriate.

[michel71]

My uBPDw threatened to call the police several times because I was arguing in front of her daughter ( who had the unique ability to come to where we were when it was getting heated). Sometimes it was inevitable. We were in "mid-fight" when she magically appeared.

She would use the cop threat as shut down language to get the last word in. Once she said, "if you do not shut your mouth, I will have someone come and shut it for you". She meant the police.

Those threats were part of why I knew she had to leave my house. My career would be at risk if she called. Just talking about this now I am glad that she is out and am feeling a great sense of RELIEF.