Hi craftygirl,
I I have done a lot to change my life... .I have pulled myself out of depression, gotten a great part-time job, and gone back to school. It's onward and upward for me!
Wow. Bravo! I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm sorry to hear about your difficulties in your marriage.
It helps to talk to a T concurrently with a support group. You probably have some family members and friends that may be giving you great advice but it works if the partner is non-disordered. It helps to talk to people that can relate with you and offer you guidance and support.
I can see how making great positive changes in yourself may change your values. You also have the option to learn as much as you can about the disorder, you can learn to become indifferent to the behaviors. What BPD traits do you see? What NPD traits do you see?
PS you can find the lessons on the right side of the board