Hi Zulu,
I'm sorry to hear that you are having problems in your relationship. It's very hard to hear "I want a divorce" so often from someone you love dearly and still stay emotionally balanced. That is really tough.
You've found a great place for support. The members here have been in similar situations and understand the challenges you are facing. The good news is that there is hope for things to get better for you and your family. This site has tons of tools and resources to help.
How do your children cope with your wife's anger? Does your wife get physical?
When you have a chance, take a look at the right sidebar--------->
where you will find tons of tools that can help you communicate in a way that calms conflict.
There is also a link to boundary setting that I think you'll find helpful:
Setting Boundaries and Setting LimitsKeep posting and sharing. It really helps. We are here to support you.
heartandwhole