Chores and Housework

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Does this sound like bpd?
Laundry gets left to  do so when I get to my weekend I start completing it. Wife gets offended by me doing laundry saying that me doing the laundry is me saying she didnt do enough and is slacking.

[Goodtimesbro]

Does this sound like bpd?
Laundry gets left to  do so when I get to my weekend I start completing it. Wife gets offended by me doing laundry saying that me doing the laundry is me saying she didnt do enough and is slacking.

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[Me88]

Does this sound like bpd?
Laundry gets left to  do so when I get to my weekend I start completing it. Wife gets offended by me doing laundry saying that me doing the laundry is me saying she didnt do enough and is slacking.

I mean, it is a victim mentality response. Lots more goes into having bpd or showing strong traits. But yes, I've heard similar things; leave a cup out on the counter overnight = I'm purposely making her life harder and don't appreciate her because she's the one who usually loads the dishes. Take my shirt off and put it on the counter after hours of fixing her car = I'm a child, I don't appreciate her and she is being taken advantage of.

Any other situations you can share that seem 'off' or way overexaggerated?

[Goodtimesbro]

Appreciate your response,
I have a large list of characteristics I've observed that leade me to think she has bpd. Keeping the subject on chores/house work it is especially the inability to complete basic things. Dish washer run but rarely unloaded, dishes not finished or sitting, laundry loads unfinished unless guests are coming(keeping appearances), rarely cooks dinner or breakfast (I work full time) and I cook more breakfast.

No participation in major project ,complains about project, wants project to stop, and when completed she does one tiny thing and says there i helped. Not satisfied with outcome of another project contractor did. Double standard caring for child if I do something wrong it's the end of the world if she does the same thing she needs the understanding.