I have now yes the thing is she claims to have given me a side to her that she's never gave to anyone I agree with her surely she can't just fall out of love in a week I adore this girl and I won't give up on her I refuse to I need her and I feel she needs me she's very misunderstood I'm willing to do all it takes to get her back I'll forgive and forget everything I've defo quit the drink o am a nightmare so its tee total for me now she claims this is my only proble.m so by fixing that I pray were clear to try again problem is right now she won't talk to me and is sounding like were pretty done! She always told me ignore her words and actions like this she will always love me and would come for me no matter what so far she hasn't and its breaking me in 2 I could never look at another woman I really feel like its her that I'm meant to be with
I know this is hard to take but i have been in several relationships with BPD and the only time you have power over them is by giving them nothing they want. Which is not a healthy relationship, also if she has been in treatment its unlikely to have any chance of changing, sometimes they will read and learn books for ways to further manipulate you.
Im on here to see if i can find, any relationships on here that have worked out long term and i am yet to find any. I have read some who have had no problems up until the day after the marriage and then it falls apart.
You shouldn't need anyone, she shouldn't need you. Needing something means it can be taken away and your life doesn't continue.
I invite you to educate yourself on self-love, co-dependancy therapy and setting your own boundaries (the good and the bad can be very hard to take the truth).
Did you have any difficulties in childhood with parents or anything difficult as be causing your need that she is the only one for you.
There are billions of people on this earth and plenty that would be a healthy relationship, you do not deserve to be treated this way and aren't doing her any favours either as they partake in destructive behaviour.
I feel for you very much as i have been in your position feeling very confused and like your losing it. It may be hard, but for myself i found closure in the fact they have a high rate of cheating (emotional/psychical), it is very common that someone with BPD, will do everything in there power to keep it from you and get angry and aggressive even if you imply it.
Without proof, anything and everything could be a lie coming out there mouth.
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