Hey Raine210:
Welcome to the community! I'm so sorry about the turmoil within your family. It's never a good time to have your parents split up, but it has to be tough after 52 years. Was there a recent episode that put "the frosting on the cake"?
we've been developing a better relationship in the last year
If I understand correctly, your mom is the one with BPD or BPD traits? :)o you have any insight into how your relationship with your mom was improving? Was she doing something to manage her emotions, were you
"SPLIT" to good versus bad?
What if it doesn't work the way we hope and all hell rains down on all of us but especially me because that's they way it's always been
What is the way you hope it will go? Have you been a caretaker for your mom?
The information at the links below should be helpful for you in your current situation. You may need to tame the
FOG (Fear, Obligation and Guilt) There is further information of FOG at the link below:
FOG DISCUSSION THREAD It can, also, help to manage validation of feelings at this time, with both parents. Sometime, it can be best to just don't invalidate (by words, body language or expression). Validation isn't about agreeing with someone's position. It is just acknowledging their feelings.
DON'T INVALIDATEHang in there. :)on't let yourself get into a degree of caretaking that you don't really want. It could help to get some counseling for yourself.
