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Author Topic: I hit my BPD waif...more than once...  (Read 2298 times)
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« Reply #60 on: October 24, 2017, 03:00:59 PM »

Paul, reading these things can't be easy for you and I respect the fact that you're reaching out and looking for answers.  I can tell you what I'd want to hear from my ex if you are willing to listen?

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« Reply #61 on: October 24, 2017, 04:24:50 PM »

 I didn't get to where I'm at in the world listening to others, friend
This is merely chatter I'd have in a bar with strangers and nothing else, except I don't want people to know that I've hit a woman, obviously


At the end of the day, there are a million variables one simply does not have enough time to type about this situation outside of broad strokes, and then you get this one size fits all, add-water-and-stir advice which is fair enough but ultimately useless, like bar chat

The main thing is I don't have a way in anymore with her, she has not returned any of my messages and if I attempt it again - I dunno - I'm just not able to swallow any more of my pride - I know pride and arrogance shadow my life in a lot of ways but c'mon she's a grown woman of 29 - if she wanted to talk to me she'd talk to me, if she wanted to be here she'd be here,... .her "condition" notwithstanding


I see no point in bringing this to her attention again, say I was to approach her and said I was taking classes for anger,... .cool,... .she ignores that too,... .then what ?,... .I walk away feeling d*ckless again,... .she'll never appreciate what it took for me to bring myself to type those emails in August after SHE walked out on ME,... .I was genuinely crying writing the emails ,... .my dad nearly had a stroke when I told him that, given the facts and all I've done for her,... .she's lazy, and self-indulgent and she pushed me to this point - but yet I still can't bring myself to wash my hands of her, which would be considered orderly at this point, but getting back on my hands and knees promising the sun, moon and stars ... .

Not. F*cking. Likely.

That ship has sailed,... .

She can woman up and approach me,... .

I mean, by all means, let me hear what you'd like to hear if it was you,... .but I have a feeling you're a different style of individual than her, more caring and less cold, therefore approachable... .I could be wrong, but would you classify yourself as a BPD of the waif variety, or if you've vegetated on this forum long enough to know the mechanics of how they think I'm all ears

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« Reply #62 on: October 24, 2017, 05:02:22 PM »

So nothing then ... .


I guess I'll see you guys again For an update in a Couple of months

Be well

Thanks.

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« Reply #63 on: October 24, 2017, 09:03:41 PM »

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