Sorry; it was about how to respond. It just astounds me after 9 months of no contact he sends messages like this. No apology but expecting me to. Then when I don’t reply he sends another saying ‘I forgive you’! Was longing for contact and now I have it I feel really disappointed.
I get that. It's all part of the process of coming to some understanding about the relationship. I felt a similar underwhelming feeling when I was still in contact. Kind of like the words of a book trailing off the page, leaving you wondering what the sentence was all about.
So in a nutshell, I think it's pretty natural to be disappointed. But also a lesson in and of itself. Maybe it can help shed some light on your level of involvement with this person, and in what ways it was both healthy and unhealthy.
If you want to know how to respond, you have to know what you want out of the exchange. So what, exactly, would you want from him... .if you responded?