JNChell, if i may here goes.
1. Are you knowledgeable in treating PTSD and core childhood wounds?
I think it would be better to rephrase your question towards... ."I think i might have suffered PTSD in my previous relationship" and you can explain the symptoms you are having. Now regarding childhood trauma or FOO ( family of origin ) issues, it takes a while to work with therapist before he/she can firmly establish the patterns and help you identify the core wounds. This question is where it starts. Asking a therapist if he / she is familiar and had handled such cases would be a better choice of words. What i mention above involves you talking about your family history, dynamics, key incidents, this will help map out the psycho pathology of family of origin... this however, isn't gonna happen over one session.
2. Are you familiar with BPD/NPD?
I suppose i would need to understand your intention of asking your T this question? Usually a T would want to help you to get better, So if the BPD/NPD is not your symptom, a T would usually not want to diagnose. Or perhaps JNChell, are you asking that question to seek validation of what you have experienced. If you want to take that approach... .i suggest you describing the experience you had been involved with. Therapists usually remain neutral and are unlikely to take "sides". So describing what you had been through... .rightly so especially when it might have traumatised you, might be a better angle to broach this subject.
3. Do you believe that a man can suffer abuse at the hands of a woman?
I don't know about this one. Don't get me wrong. I obviously believe one can. Especially if you have allowed the person to step over your boundaries and treat you in ways which make you feel disrespected and violated. It is easier to say, "i had difficulties with my relationship with this lady", again describe the situation to the T and let the T come to his/her own conclusion. A good T would be able to pick out the abuse/emotional abuse feedback to you and ask you the appropriate questions. There are many ways to ask a question without asking the question.
4. Are you knowledgeable in treating codependency?
I reiterate the point about explaining the interactions with you and your ex partner. And i think that would help your T understand the situation. No T would immediately jump to the direct conclusion that you are co-depenedent, even if you might be. That is unprofessional because, we ourselves on the receiving end, may have our own biases to a certain situation. In the same way, we might have our own blind spots.
I found this from quora and i think it is helpful,
"the process of Psychoanalysis typically involves an Analyst, as well as a whole set of assumptions about how the Psyche is constructed. You need not go this route,. I would recommend keeping a journal. You can write your most private thoughts away from the judgment of others, ruminate as much as you wish without fear of boring a listener and ask yourself many personal and probing questions which you can try to answer. This practice will make you more proficient in stating and understanding issues. If you are honest with yourself, you will become skilled in recognizing, not only your own motives, but those of others."
Link for reference
https://www.quora.com/Is-it-possible-to-perform-modern-psychoanalysis-on-yourselfI also second that keeping a diary would be a better option of expressing how you feel as apposed to self reflection or self psycho analysis.
I hope this kinda helps...
Spero.
