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I have been a resilient survivor, and will continue to put the work in until I’m an unmistakable thriver.
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Quote from: JNChell on August 10, 2018, 08:11:12 AM
I have been a resilient survivor, and will continue to put the work in until I’m an unmistakable thriver.
JNChell
, this is AWESOME! Visualizing you —and all of us— unmistakably thriving today. Go you! Go us!
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I can't help but think that the love you have for your son and wanting to give him a better childhood than you had is the best motivator you could have to do the work of healing and becoming a thriver.
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Zachira
, thank you. You are spot on.
I can't help but think that the love you have for your son and wanting to give him a better childhood than you had is the best motivator you could have to do the work of healing and becoming a thriver.
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I will not let my fear silence me.
Harri
, if anything, our fear should allow us to call on others for
, or to speak up and be heard. We were never taught this. We were conditioned to stuff everything. It is natural and normal to express our fears to those closest to us. We deserve validation, comfort and guidance when it comes to fear. Personally, I have a lot of fear inside of me.
I’m wondering if you can relate to this. We were forced to stuff our fears from a very early age. We were taught that we shouldn’t be afraid of some very scary stuff. We couldn’t express it, had to bottle it, so it’s still stuck inside of us. We’re not quite sure how to handle it when it shows it’s face, so we stuff it again. Just like we were taught to do. Maybe this becomes the true
witche’s brew
that is at a slow boil inside of some of us?
We didn’t create this. It is not ours to own, but unfortunately it is our’s to manage now.
Sometimes I sit and wonder how many people there are out in the world, hell, how many people I pass in the grocery store, that have been through similar things, but have absolutely no understanding of what they’ve been through. People just like all of us on this board. I understand that these are just thoughts, possibly some kind of self soothing mechanism, but these thoughts create feelings of being happy that I’m aware, as well as being sad for those that may never get it and continue to perpetuate the multi-generational cycle. I guess I went on a bit too long here.
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I am worth loving.
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, you most certainly are! Ya know, there’s a saying that has stuck with me throughout the years.
”Think globally, act locally”
. Most often when this quote pops into my mind, I revert it to love. If love were rampant in the world, this support group wouldn’t exist. As it is, there is a concept that love cannot exist without hate, black without white, etc. I’m not sure about this concept, but it seems to fit a manufactured narrative.
When we’re born, we only need love and nourishment. We are malleable. I often wonder at what point in ancient history did all of this dysfunction begin to manifest. Was the tribal aspect of survival taken for granted? And once the creep of modernization that slowly broke up the tribal way of life did people start to realize what love really is? When it was being taken from them? Or has love always been a constant that needs to be evolved around?
I’m getting out there a bit so I’ll stop while I’m behind. You are very worthy of love.
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, you are awesome as well!
My "I message" tonight... .I think you all are awesome! Love it! (click to insert in post)
You’re here for a loved one. I understand that you were married to an alcoholic, but you’re not really here for that. You’re here to help your collective family. You’re also here to help others, and I just want you to know how commendable that is. You’re here everyday. I appreciate the straightforwardness of many of your messages. Maybe a grizzly is more appropriate? You strike me as a very strong and aware person. You’re awesome P39!
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babyducks
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You are going to be “just fine”. You said it yourself. As I’m binge typing on my phone, I’m also watching my S3 sleep. Your “I” statement rings true for him too. He’s not subjected to a cruel childhood. He’s at peace.
I read a bit of your original post. If I’m correct, you found your way here because of a breakup? I did too. As the Board Parrot says, all boards lead to PSI. It’s the truth.
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What a fantastic thread!
My statement today is:
"I am enough, exactly as I am, in this moment"
Really love everyone's statements that I've read here. It's wonderful to feel the positivity radiate out from you all
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I am not perfect, and that's okay.
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Good one Panda! We are perfectly imperfect
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I am parrot.
I am not perfect, but I am pretty parrot good
Quote from: Harri on August 09, 2018, 02:32:16 PM
Panda, you are creative and funny and compassionate and wise... .and you make me smile.
Totally agree! I love the hamster (and panda too of course ;-) )
Quote from: JNChell on August 11, 2018, 06:56:52 AM
As the Board Parrot says, all boards lead to PSI. It’s the truth.
That great moment when a parrot gets parroted
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I laugh, I care, I cry, I feel anger and I feel love and joy, sadness and pain. I am human.
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I believe. Our pages are crinkled, but our binding is strong. We’re all here,
together
, because we made a choice. It’s not fate, it’s awareness. I believe in us.
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Quote from: JNChell on August 11, 2018, 08:25:52 PM
I believe. Our pages are crinkled, but our binding is strong. We’re all here,
together
, because we made a choice. It’s not fate, it’s awareness. I believe in us.
Love this!
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JNChell, you too have been assimilated into the PSI family and I am quite pleased! I really like you contributions here. Thank you.
And I see you poking around Ms Harley Quinn. Good to have you pop in.
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Quote from: JNChell on August 11, 2018, 08:25:52 PM
I believe. Our pages are crinkled, but our binding is strong. We’re all here,
together
, because we made a choice. It’s not fate, it’s awareness. I believe in us.
Yeeees! Breathing this in and holding on to it.
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Quote from: JNChell on August 11, 2018, 08:25:52 PM
I believe. Our pages are crinkled, but our binding is strong. We’re all here,
together
, because we made a choice. It’s not fate, it’s awareness. I believe in us.
Amen to that JNChell!
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Quote from: JNChell on August 12, 2018, 12:37:29 AM
I’m allowed to take a break.
This one really resonates with me and is not something I do very often. Something to be more conscious of.
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I can let go and just be responsible for myself.
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I am not shameful.
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Quote from: Harri on August 13, 2018, 11:14:00 PM
I am not shameful.
Indeed! Like Pete Walker says:
Feeling shame does not mean you are shameful.
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I am a dyslexic wot has leaned to write proper. I am currently writing the diarrhea of a dyslexic; it’s just flows out of me.
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I acknowledge my own self worth. I can take good care of me.
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Quote from: HappyChappy on August 14, 2018, 03:09:30 AM
I am a dyslexic wot has leaned to write proper. I am currently writing the diarrhea of a dyslexic; it’s just flows out of me.
Happy Chappy, you always give me a giggle
Quote from: babyducks on August 14, 2018, 04:38:30 AM
I acknowledge my own self worth. I can take good care of me.
babyducks, these are really good, and I know from my own experience hard earned.
Mine for today... .I am capable and I will not let fear rule my life.
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I need to remind myself today that:
I can take the next step to healing.
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I realize that fear is a bad advisor.
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I realize that fear is a bad advisor.
Oh Fie, I love this!
My BPD Family signature... .
"Have you ever looked fear in the face and just said, I just don't care" -Pink
I will add to yours... .I will push through the fear.
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I am a dyslexic wot has leaned to write proper. I am currently writing the diarrhea of a dyslexic; it’s just flows out of me.
Ahhhh hahaha, HappyChappy! Humor brings laughter, the best medicine. Thank you for brightening my day. I’ve missed reading your posts.
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I will rest my mind and body tonight confident that I have given my best. That is enough, no matter what anyone else thinks or says.
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