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I am exactly where I need to be, right now.
« Reply #30 on: October 19, 2018, 03:21:56 PM »
You certainly are Harri!   

I am changing for the better

Love and light x
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« Reply #31 on: October 21, 2018, 01:00:54 PM »
Harri you are priceless, Harley you are changing for the better, you're becoming a Triump (motorcycle).

I am worth it. So I've just bought Emmental cheese and a tin of pop - two of the many forbidden foods my BPD said would be wasted on us (whilst she sat their eating it herself).

Crazy how hard it is to treat yourself to all the stuff your BPD said was "too expensive to waist on children", even though I now realise it was more about eroding our self esteem. I was 16 when I bought my first new piece of clothing (hand me downs up until then). She got me to wear my Dad's hand me down underwear. She boil washed them so the elastic went, making them available as very uncomfortable hand me downs. It  coincided with the first time I notice the opposite sex... .You've got to laugh (even though it wasn't a joke)... .
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« Reply #32 on: October 21, 2018, 04:48:23 PM »
Eat your cheese with pride man!  You are absolutely worth it!   

Love and light x
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« Reply #33 on: October 26, 2018, 08:17:57 PM »
I’m better than I was this time last week. Thanks L2T. Miss you.
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« Reply #34 on: October 26, 2018, 08:55:07 PM »
I am a good friend and I have made some good friends here! (Many of them are right here on this thread!)

  Panda39

JNChell you're not alone, I've missed L2T too.
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« Reply #35 on: October 28, 2018, 01:15:54 PM »
I love the autum weather and the smell of it. I’m confident in my steps today.
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« Reply #36 on: October 28, 2018, 03:49:31 PM »
Fall is glorious JNChell!

Step with strength and grace... .as always JNChell.
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« Reply #37 on: October 29, 2018, 05:27:32 AM »
Panda smarter than the average bear, Boo-boo.

I’m still standing, yeah, yeah, yeah ! Then again, we Brits do like a good queue.
 
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« Reply #38 on: October 29, 2018, 06:42:19 AM »
Little something for Happy Chappy... .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHwVBirqD2s

We're all glad you're still standing! 

I am optimistic 

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« Reply #39 on: October 29, 2018, 06:46:59 AM »
I am doing my best.

I am keeping my children safe.
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« Reply #40 on: October 29, 2018, 07:03:40 AM »
Hi silencedPartner,

Yes! Those are both awesome I messages! 

I'm here because my significant other (SO) has an undiagnosed BPD ex-wife (uBPDxw) and they share  two daughters.

Doing your best is all that can be asked of you, and I know how hard that is 

Keeping your children safe is huge!  You are giving your children so much, it's invaluable.

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« Reply #41 on: October 29, 2018, 07:35:43 AM »
Hey Panda,

Thanks for the reply. I really needed the support today. I am feeling really at the end of my capacity.

Thank you.
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« Reply #42 on: October 29, 2018, 07:44:15 AM »
You're Welcome.
I've been there with my SO, I know how exhausting it all can get.  Try to fit in a little self-care today. 

If you have time and if you haven't already you might want to do a more extensive post on your home board.  Everyone here "gets it" and there is lots of support to be had here.  You are not alone in this 

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« Reply #43 on: October 29, 2018, 07:47:25 AM »
I did post something, it was my first post but no one has responded. Maybe I posted to the wrong place. The day has gotten worse since that post, much.

I don't know what self-care looks like or how to do it. Ugh.
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« Reply #44 on: October 29, 2018, 10:11:42 AM »
Thank you for this thread 

#MyResilientHeart Positive Affirmation - I TRUST in my ABILITIES to IMPROVE my circumstances   
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« Reply #45 on: October 29, 2018, 10:51:04 AM »
Hi silencedPartner  Welcome new member (click to insert in post) You said -
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I don't know what self-care looks like or how to do it. Ugh.

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Self-care is any necessary human regulatory function which is under individual control, deliberate and self-initiated. - Wikipedia.

Self-care to me, means putting the focus back onto myself. I look inside myself to get clear on what is going on for me, and what my experience is. From there I ask myself what my wants, needs and desires are. When I am clear what my wants, needs and desires are, I then figure out how to go about meeting them for myself.

Thank you for this opportunity to explore what self-care is
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« Reply #46 on: October 30, 2018, 11:00:37 AM »
A flame can but burn as long as it is fed.
An abandoned, hungry flame can become destructive,
but a nurtured flame gives light and warmth.

I can nurture and love myself.
I can accept and embrace love from others.

I am a flame of light and warmth.

 
Libra.
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« Reply #47 on: October 30, 2018, 12:03:33 PM »
Yay!   Libra, I love it!  So true.

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« Reply #48 on: October 30, 2018, 01:24:26 PM »
I am glad to see you back and glowing so brightly Libra!

 
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« Reply #49 on: October 31, 2018, 08:41:31 AM »
I am looking for ways to keep on going.
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« Reply #50 on: October 31, 2018, 01:48:44 PM »
Silenced partner, reaching out here is good as is posting in this thread.   


I am okay.
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« Reply #51 on: October 31, 2018, 02:45:46 PM »
I am still here.  best I can do today.
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« Reply #52 on: October 31, 2018, 03:08:39 PM »
Hi Isilme.  Thanks for joining us today.  I too am glad you are here today.   
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« Reply #53 on: October 31, 2018, 09:18:16 PM »
I am too old to go Trick or Treating... .



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« Reply #54 on: October 31, 2018, 10:55:18 PM »
Wait... .  do you want to trick or treat Panda?



I can do this.
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« Reply #55 on: November 01, 2018, 05:36:02 AM »
I did some self-care.

I am feeling stronger than yesterday.
I see a few small successes.
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« Reply #56 on: November 01, 2018, 06:49:22 AM »
Yay! silencedPartner! 

Nice job!
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« Reply #57 on: November 02, 2018, 07:48:33 AM »
Thanks I really need the encouragement and I really tried. Lord knows its hard
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« Reply #58 on: November 02, 2018, 08:44:39 AM »
Another day without any contact from uBPDsd. The calm in our lives is amazing and we are thankful.
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« Reply #59 on: November 02, 2018, 09:12:53 AM »
Quote from: isilme on October 31, 2018, 02:45:46 PM
I am still here.  best I can do today.

Boy do I get that. I’m here too. At least we’re here together.
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