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Maiasaura
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« on: March 15, 2019, 05:44:45 PM »

Hi,

I just found this forum by searching randomly; it was linked from another group.

My newly minted 18yo son was just dx'd like two weeks ago with borderline personality disorder.

I have ZERO idea how to navigate this. I've barely started to scratch the surface of learning about it. I already have no room on my plate at all, and nearly no spoons left in a day.

What little I read already makes a lot of his behaviors make SO much more sense. He's already so contrary, so angry, so blamey and victim-y and everything is my fault He's had issues all his whole life, but this? Ye gods, I feel like it's relentless. Add teen hormones to that, and single parenting all his life, and, well...
On the Jekyll side, he's really sweet.
I have said for YEARS about him, he's black or white, no grey area at all.

Help?
How do I do this?
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« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2019, 09:43:15 PM »

 Maiasaura:
Welcome!
I'm so sorry about your son's diagnosis.  They usually wait until someone is 18 before giving the diagnosis of BPD.  One way to look at it is that it really isn't something new.  His collective behaviors just have a new label.

Usually people with BPD have mental health issues such as: depression, anxiety, bi-polar, ADD/ADHD and/or others.  When someone is over 18 and has enough BPD behaviors, they get the BPD label.  Some people may lack the number of BPD traits to gain the label, but they might be referred to as having BPD traits.

There is a lot of helpful information here and helpful people.  A good place to start exploring is to look at the green menu band at the top of the page and check out the "Diagnosis & Treatment" & "Tools" sections.

Sounds like you have a lot to handle as a single mother.  What is your biggest challenge with your son at the moment? 



 

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« Reply #2 on: March 16, 2019, 08:13:57 AM »

Hello Maiasaura

I join No-One in welcoming you to the family, I'm glad you've reached out for support here, it is critical.

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Take your own gentle time, small steps, there is much to learn here that can help you and your situation. How has your son received the diagnosis, is there a treatment plan?

We've got you Maiasaura, we're walking with you

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« Reply #3 on: March 27, 2019, 02:29:05 AM »

Welcome Maiasaura,

I'm new here, too. Our son 18 was recently diagnosed w/ BPD, too. He has other medical problems & we have been seeking answers for almost 2 years. I personally feel relieved to have a diagnosis.

He is on meds, will be seeing a therapist weekly & a new psychiatrist. He maybe be joining a DBT outpatient group next month. We are doing our best to make sure that he graduates w/ his classmates in a few months. Not sure if that will happen or not.

Hugs!
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« Reply #4 on: March 27, 2019, 02:35:16 AM »

I join no one and Wendy Darling in welcoming you to the group. You have come to the right place for help. I understand your relief at having a diagnosis to work with. There is a lot to learn one step at a time. We are here for you. What is your biggest concern right now?
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