I’m also feeling really unsure about things as they stand - is she going to try to contact me again even though in her email she said ‘No reply necessary’? She also owes me a substantial amount of money - is it better to just let that go completely since it means I then don’t have to contact her?
It’s your choice with what you want to do with the money. Mine owed me quite a bit but what is more important for me is my emotional well-being and how difficult and stressful she is it just wasn’t worth the stress.
My emotional well-being to me is priceless and worth a lot more than any sum of money. If she didn’t have BOD traits and was flexible and doesn’t give me a hard time all of time well that’s different.
Somebody else will say something different depending on their view. It depends on how you feel if you want to part with it because you want to self protect there’s nothing wrong with that.
From what you have experienced she is saying contradictory things - there’s a pattern there although she’s saying no reply necessary she’ll probably contact you again in the future. Regardless of if she is or not what’s important is how you react it to it and what you want.