On Monday I will see my ex bpd in class.

[RichardLover55]

Three months after our breakup unfortunately it is time to see her again, we are in the same class because we attend the same evening school. In three months she never looked for me, she just looked at my social stories, as well as deleting from her profile all our photos together. How should I deal with her? What should I expect from her? I am convinced that you will ignore me. Tomorrow is her birthday and I won't wish her well, I tried to make her miss her but apparently it didn't lead to anything.

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[Mutt]

Three months of cold treatment would have me feeling on edge as well too for Monday. You're probably right if she has been giving you the cold treatment for three months it probably won't change on Monday. That being said is there an option to do your class remotely because of COVID? If so, there's a possibility that she may be doing the class remotely or if you can do it remotely, do you think that it's a viable option for you?

[RichardLover55]

Three months of cold treatment would have me feeling on edge as well too for Monday. You're probably right if she has been giving you the cold treatment for three months it probably won't change on Monday. That being said is there an option to do your class remotely because of COVID? If so, there's a possibility that she may be doing the class remotely or if you can do it remotely, do you think that it's a viable option for you?

No unfortunately I have to go to school in person. I'm very angry and sorry, for me our story is over forever at this point. I should probably change schools to feel good but I do not know where to go !

[RichardLover55]

I don't really know what to do !

[Mutt]

I’d suggest before class starts do some breathing exercises, go to the washroom and do them  there take a deep breath hold it for 7 seconds and then let it all out. Do that 7 times. Watch this you can find his podcast and the same clip is on the podcast I listened to this for about two weeks I was training new hires virtually for a month. I had never done it before and I was really nervous but listening to Sadhguru and doing breathing exercises and doing a light medication for 10 minutes before starting work helped me  https://youtu.be/K7hYf0yIK5w Sadhgurus right about fear and anxiety a thousand things in your mind can go wrong but how many of those things in actuality actually happen?

[Flightfar]

Good luck, RichardLover55. It's gonna be okay! Come update how it went there.

[RichardLover55]

Good luck, RichardLover55. It's gonna be okay! Come update how it went there.

We ignored each other, it's like I don't exist for her. He's not the same person anymore, it's over forever.

[RichardLover55]

I’d suggest before class starts do some breathing exercises, go to the washroom and do them  there take a deep breath hold it for 7 seconds and then let it all out. Do that 7 times. Watch this you can find his podcast and the same clip is on the podcast I listened to this for about two weeks I was training new hires virtually for a month. I had never done it before and I was really nervous but listening to Sadhguru and doing breathing exercises and doing a light medication for 10 minutes before starting work helped me  https://youtu.be/K7hYf0yIK5w Sadhgurus right about fear and anxiety a thousand things in your mind can go wrong but how many of those things in actuality actually happen?

Is there anything I can do to change things ? Unfortunately she's become another person, it's scary.

[Mutt]

I'm sorry that it went that way for you today. How was it compared to how you thought it would be? In July I said I think that she wants you to chase her and at this point you said that she's still cold, what do you think about sending her a short message to say something like How was your summer?

[RichardLover55]

I'm sorry that it went that way for you today. How was it compared to how you thought it would be? In July I said I think that she wants you to chase her and at this point you said that she's still cold, what do you think about sending her a short message to say something like How was your summer?

I'm afraid to do worse, it's just another person. She started talking to classmates she said she couldn't stand, she's playing another role...