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Ventak
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To find out what I want, I look at what I do.
Re: Things you can never say to a pwBPD
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Quote from: Cat Familiar on July 23, 2021, 11:13:21 AM
So that’s OK if you do it, but NOT OK if I do it?
I literally just went through this... The answer was: I've told you not to do it. You've never told me not to do it.
Seriously.
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Along the same lines as the above: what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
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“The Four Agreements 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Don’t take anything personally. 3. Don’t make assumptions. 4. Always do your best. ” ― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
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As, I remember it, “weren’t you the one who broke up with me, broke my heart and walked away. Why do you think I owe you anything?”
There is a song that has a line that goes
“You made your bed, and didn’t want me in it”
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Oh boy, this is therapeutic
- Let’s sit down and have a rational conversation about this.
- Let’s look at actual facts; what we know has really happened.
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I'm going to play that
Culture Club
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"Do You Really Want to Hurt Me, Do You Really Want to Make Me Cry..."
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"I called and rescheduled your appointment."
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"Could you stop at the pharmacy and pick up my prescription? I'm having a flare-up of the STD you gave me. "
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I'm new here and reading through this thread I already feel so at home. It's a bittersweet feeling.
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