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« on: July 25, 2021, 01:38:13 PM » |
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{With a 3rd party present.}
"I apologize for that. Just ignore her."
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« Reply #1 on: July 25, 2021, 02:04:52 PM » |
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Can you just stop being so unreasonable?
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« Reply #2 on: July 25, 2021, 02:06:21 PM » |
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For once, will you quit projecting your  on me? |
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« Reply #3 on: July 25, 2021, 03:38:14 PM » |
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Actually, you're NOT a logical person, and the more you keep announcing loudly that you ARE, the more I'm convinced you're NOT.
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« Reply #4 on: July 25, 2021, 07:01:33 PM » |
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Any statement with the word "you" in it.
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« Reply #5 on: July 25, 2021, 08:06:58 PM » |
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Trust is something that is earned
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« Reply #6 on: August 03, 2021, 09:56:47 PM » |
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"Of course I saw your name on the caller i.d. That's why I didn't answer."
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« Reply #7 on: August 03, 2021, 10:14:47 PM » |
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Do it. Do all these things you're threatening to do and let's see what happens.
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« Reply #8 on: August 05, 2021, 03:16:05 PM » |
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“You seem to be the common denominator in all these relationship issues , am I right? “
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« Reply #9 on: August 05, 2021, 10:45:46 PM » |
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I told him to “grow a pair”….. once…. didn’t go well..
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« Reply #10 on: August 06, 2021, 10:24:15 AM » |
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You are an adult.
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« Reply #11 on: August 06, 2021, 11:04:42 AM » |
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You are an adult.
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« Reply #12 on: August 06, 2021, 01:59:48 PM » |
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"I feel like you're using me."
...and now we are no longer speaking. Apparently my feelings aren't valid or that statement hit a little too close to home
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« Reply #13 on: August 06, 2021, 11:17:12 PM » |
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So the WHOLE world is out to get you?
So it's ALWAYS everyone else's fault?
Wow! I can't believe how perfect you are being able to claim you don't do anything wrong!
You know, you might actually have or keep a friend if you actually treated them decent. Maybe even keep a romantic interest around!
Or pretty much say or do the things she has to me during those moments. She would go nuclear and I'd be the worst person ever.
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« Reply #14 on: August 07, 2021, 03:46:07 PM » |
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You have that down to an art form
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« Reply #15 on: August 07, 2021, 05:05:14 PM » |
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pwBPD "Do you want these ? (things she owns) as I might give them away if you don't"
"No thank you, go ahead and do what you want with them" ( as an expression, not a command)
pwBPD in angry tone: " How DARE you tell me what to do with my belongings! These are MINE and I will do whatever I want with them".
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« Reply #16 on: August 08, 2021, 11:59:45 AM » |
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They can whatever you, but should you whatever them…
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« Reply #17 on: August 08, 2021, 01:37:34 PM » |
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Similar to Notwendy's:
She’s going out of town and is asking what I want her to leave out that I can eat.
pwBPD: I can make some fresh pasta and you can use up this meat sauce while I’m gone. Do you want that?
me: Yes, that will work, I’ll eat that.
pwBPD: Or do you want me to freeze it if you don’t like it?
me: Okay, freeze it.
pwBPD: Then what are you supposed to eat?
me: I’ll take care of myself.
pwBPD: Exasperated.
It's like a flowchart. Experience has shown there was no right way to answer it. If I had said no right off the bat she would have torn into me for never liking her cooking. If I had insisted on wanting it, I would have heard how she doesn't have time for that and I'm always making her do the work. At the end I should have said "Okay, I'll take the meat sauce" to see how many times things would go 360!
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« Reply #18 on: August 11, 2021, 01:50:18 PM » |
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My BPD husband does not like to take advice from me, even on things where I have expertise, and he does not.
“Let me show you the *right* way to do that.”
Guaranteed to set off a bomb!
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« Reply #19 on: August 12, 2021, 11:35:31 AM » |
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I once told my my uBPD wife that the real reason she went way overboard on gifts for the kids was because the gifts were really for herself... boom!
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« Reply #20 on: August 12, 2021, 11:48:01 AM » |
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Sorry, I’m fresh out of emotional bubble wrap for you. Shall I pick up more at the store when I go?
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« Reply #21 on: August 15, 2021, 08:49:30 PM » |
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Thank you everyone for the amazing posts. It’s a relief to know I am not the only one. So many great lines here.
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« Reply #22 on: August 18, 2021, 07:24:08 AM » |
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Why don't you see if you can find some principles to live by.
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« Reply #23 on: August 18, 2021, 08:20:54 AM » |
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When what you say is never enough...
“I love you, dear.”
“Is that you talking, or is it the martini?”
“It’s me talking to the martini.”
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« Reply #24 on: August 19, 2021, 09:10:11 AM » |
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"It's interesting that someone who is hyper sensitive to criticism can be so overtly critical"
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« Reply #25 on: August 19, 2021, 11:02:55 AM » |
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Have you ever thought of examining your own behavior?
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« Reply #26 on: August 20, 2021, 02:34:31 AM » |
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"its over"
"thank god"
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« Reply #27 on: August 20, 2021, 11:17:59 AM » |
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When you are pushing our son and I into the wall and threatening to hit me with a broom, and then I push you away, your bruises are not evidence of me being an abuser.
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« Reply #28 on: August 20, 2021, 02:36:08 PM » |
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Why am I still here?
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« Reply #29 on: August 20, 2021, 02:52:51 PM » |
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The world isn’t going to end because I’m five minutes late taking you to your appointment.
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