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daavey
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« on: November 22, 2022, 07:31:03 AM »

just coming to terms with wife that is BP.
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she always blames and became very paranoid with paranoia symptoms of being watched ..  things that friends and family are against her.. she wants closeness but is scared of closeness.
how do we get back to physical relations again.. every time I brings it up she explodes
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« Reply #1 on: November 22, 2022, 12:57:11 PM »

Back off on bringing up physical relations [for now], it is a major trigger for her causing her to 'explode'.  Something that you are doing, or haven't been doing is making her feel and behave that way.

When she is calm, and not triggered, suggest going to counseling for yourself, couple's therapy, and individual for her [if she is open to the idea].

At a very minimum, go to therapy for yourself, as you need to change in order for her to open back up to you. 

Try to do a mental role reversal, and see her point of view -- think what needs to be changed, and then make that change.

Without any more specific details, I don't know what else to suggest.
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