I posted something similar a long ways back -but wanted to bring the issue back up--
Did your BPD have anything such as a Blanket-Pillow-stuffed animal-special Pillow from their chilhood that they still were "using" ?
Mine was in her early 20's and still was using her original Baby blanket..
She slept with it -watched tv with it -studied with it (all the while when awake rubbing it furiously) she also took it on trips ..
Im gone leave a link here to better explain the behavior --
I also read in a Mental health nurses -textbook that If you see this behavior -It is most likely BPD --
Sounds like it maybe some actual physical evidence we may be able to point to-
a behavior possibly outside of an intimate relationship that may lead to a DX..www.ajp.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/reprint/154/2/250.pdf
See what you think?
I'm not sure on this one. Perhaps it relates to the extent to which the person uses it. I have a very special Stife Bear that my grandmother gave me as a child. My kids do not play with that bear, and when I am stressed, I do like to hold it. I even rubbed it with some lavendar because the smell is supposed to be soothing.
I'll admit that a couple of times when I have had a really crappy day teaching, Max and I have cuddled up and watched a DVD or two. He reminds me of my grandmother and makes me feel better.
I read the article, and the issue is not the presence of the transitional object, but the pathological inability to part with it. This is believed to reflect the lack of object constancy in the cognitive schema of the borderline if you are approaching the disorder from the psychodynamic perspective. This lack of object constancy is what leads to the instable interpersonal relationships that are so much fun for those of us who are involved with a BPD.
I have another friend who has her Hello Kitty doll from childhood.
However, neither of us carry it around all day or anything like that.
But, her kids don't touch her "Hello Kitty" either. I think she'd be crushed if anything happened to it. It was a special gift from her grandmother too.
I am a non by the way and do not have a dx of BPD.
EDITED TO ADD:
However, I am a collector of stuffed bears in general, and have several Stifes. I also collect antique games and other types of toys. So, I guess Max could just reflect my hobby.
But, I think even us "normies" have things to comfort and ground us around our homes.
I felt this study was a little skewed because they only studied patients on a pscyh ward and had no control group from the general population.