If you already have a custody and parenting schedule order and you ex is not complying with it, then the court will likely confirm it if your ex does not have convincing substantiated documentation and not just hearsay or "I am the Mother". Yes, she is the mother, but you're the father. You're not just chump change.
She may have decided for herself that she has authority over you, but family court is The Authority. However, court also seems reluctant to put its foot down quickly and does seem to make the smallest changes to existing orders.
Do you have a lawyer? Will your ex appear with one?
If you have only a brief hearing scheduled, such as for a half hour, then not much may get decided. You may need to ask for a Custody Evaluation where the evaluator digs past the surface claims and looks deeper into the parenting of both parents. Mine was done over a course of 4-5 months by a local child psychologist who was trusted totally by the court. His initial report was barely 11 pages but it packed a punch.
Be aware that not all custody evaluators are proficient or unbiased. Some are newer professionals, try to write books to submit to the court and charge high fees to match. So if you decide to ask for a CE then do similar to how you would choose a counselor for your children in a contested scenario... take the time to vet the ones available in your area, make a short list of ones who are respected and bring that to court. Why to court? Court may like it better if both parents are involved in the selection. By being ready to offer your vetted list to the court for the ex to make the final selection, then you may avoid the risk of your ex choosing one who may be partial, biased, gullible or inexperienced.




