Have you researched "Stockholm Syndrome" or similar relationship dilemmas? You may not have been a literal prisoner or hostage and brainwashed, but emotionally you became deeply invested in the relationship. Your ex may have been able to turn her feelings and loyalties on and off, but a reasonably normal person like you can't do that.
Also, ponder the various aspects of how you're "grieving a loss". A handful of stages are involved, you can bounce back and forth among them but eventually you need to end up at Acceptance of What Is.
Over on our Tools & Skills Workshops board we have a topic Grieving our Losses which discusses that it is a winding path back and forth before we Accept and fully deal with the loss, in this case, of a doomed relationship.
Also, ponder the various aspects of how you're "grieving a loss". A handful of stages are involved, you can bounce back and forth among them but eventually you need to end up at Acceptance of What Is.
Over on our Tools & Skills Workshops board we have a topic Grieving our Losses which discusses that it is a winding path back and forth before we Accept and fully deal with the loss, in this case, of a doomed relationship.
Yes I have researched Stockholm syndrome and trauma bonding. il take e a look at the post you recommended too. I know a lot of this im just in a world of pain right now.




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