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Working through my task list week by week as I get closer. I’ve got my storage unit and started moving important things to me out of the house. I have a post office box to have packages and change mailing addresses as needed. Currently all the household bills are paid from a joint bank account. Leading up to the time I tell her I’m transitioning all the auto payments to a separate individual bank account. Once I tell her, I won’t be keeping any funds in the joint account. By the end of next week, I’m planning to get some banker boxes to pack up and get some files, passports, other docs I want to be sure are safe out of the house.
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Working through my task list week by week as I get closer. I’ve got my storage unit and started moving important things to me out of the house. I have a post office box to have packages and change mailing addresses as needed. Currently all the household bills are paid from a joint bank account. Leading up to the time I tell her I’m transitioning all the auto payments to a separate individual bank account. Once I tell her, I won’t be keeping any funds in the joint account. By the end of next week, I’m planning to get some banker boxes to pack up and get some files, passports, other docs I want to be sure are safe out of the house.
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I would move funds out of her reach ***before*** you tell her anything.
In my own experience, BPDxw tried looting all our accounts after telling me that we were getting divorced. Apparently she thought that if she took all our money, I couldn't hire an attorney and file. And remember: SHE told me we were getting divorced the day before.
She wasn't able to get money out of our kid's accounts though because of a bank oversight that left her name off them. So I had enough to pay the retainer and file.
she tried to loot everything while I was at work. She should've also been at work, but for her, all responsibilities went out the door once she went into "panic mode"
The lack of long term planning was evident here: "I hold all tje money, so you have to stay married to me." LOL... what the hell kind of relationship did she think that would make going forward?


