My heart goes out to you for all the abuse you have endured and are enduring at the hands of your mother. I also have enormous respect for all you have accomplished despite being raised by and caring for an abusive mother.
The final goal here seems to be to not have to be responsible for taking care of your mother. I do think that you must carefully plan how to do this so you accomplish this goal. Even though you are a lawyer, it could make a lot of sense to consult an attorney who specializes in dealing with children refusing to no longer care for an abusive parent and how to chart the best path forward.
Keep us posted on how you are doing and let us know how we can help.


