Hi SwanOrnament,
I understand you missing seeing your daughter, but am glad that you weren’t further stressed by her arguing and treating you mean and hopefully able to focus on the meeting.
My high-functioning daughter is now 38 years old, she has blocked me for the last 11 years. I have seen her a handful of times over the years at our few family gatherings, but even then she still will not speak to me.
I usually ask her if I can give her a hug when we leave, and I cannot even remember the last time she let me, and when she did it was very cold anyway.
I think and pray for her a lot each day, and the only way I deal with it is to focus on my own pursuits. My thoughts of her will never go away, but staying busy helps.
I encourage you to get involved in as much as you can, and it also helps me to read a lot. I mostly read non-fiction, so it seems helpful to focus on other people’s lives-I read the Bible and am also reading stories of courageous women that are local missionaries in dangerous countries.
Another thing I do when I’m at home or in the car is constantly listen to uplifting music-my preference is Contemporary Christian songs-I really like this because the lyrics are so positive and since I’m praising God, these songs give me great peace! (at home, I play YouTube videos on my tv)
I am 65 and a retired widow, I love to do volunteer work with children & youth, and I also volunteer at the prisons.
Just focus on doing the things you like and want to do.
I’m even preparing to go overseas as a missionary, sure, I hope she contacts me someday, but in the meantime, I must live my own life, knowing that if she does ever re-connect with me that is something I’ll deal with at the time.
The act of Intercessory Prayer for our daughters along with friends and families makes a HUGE difference! It was the prayers of people when I was 3 years old that saved my life!
I truly wish you the best, be the best version of YOU that you can, and trust that what will be, will be.
And finally, I would like to remind you as someone reminded me; you really did your part for her life when you raised her. This was a blessing that God gave you to raise one of His children, you did a great job, and she’s in His hands now.
I know we still think we need to help them, but we have to trust and let them fly and figure out their own way, and ask God to help them and keep them safe.
I hope this helps you to be able to let go.
(I don’t know your religious beliefs, and I hope I didn’t offend you in any way.)
I truly wish you peace and comfort.