I think a good rule of thumb for next time is not to ignore what my gut tells me even if you do not have a sufficient explanation for what is nagging me at the moment. Its okay to put what I've noticed on the back burner until I have further information but don't ignore it or let it slide.
Syz, awesome! This is what is meant by inquiring.
Inquiring means to ask questions, look at the response, feeling into your own bodily responses to the answers, letting yourself ask questions even if they feel risky. Think ‘curiosity’…
Many of us did not inquire - instead we were dazzled with promises, happy every after, attempts to save and rescue and lots of sex - none of which are a good pre-cursor to inquiry.
If it feels off then it probably is. Ask yourself how many
are one too many - know your limits. Know what you want in a r/s.