You either die hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain

[TakeFlight]

Just thought I'd add this little Harvey Dent quote from "The Dark Knight" That describes your status throughout a relationship with a BPD PERFECTLY. 

[Hurt llama]

Just thought I'd add this little Harvey Dent quote from "The Dark Knight" That describes your status throughout a relationship with a BPD PERFECTLY. 

Love it!

[mtmc01]

That $h!t's deep.

[MaybeSo]

This feeling is pretty much true of any drama triangle.

[hithere]

The problem here is that there is no option to really die the hero, nobody will see you that way, especially not the person with BPD that is killing you.

[TakeFlight]

Well assuming you leave decisively during the idealization phase I think its possible to "die a hero" (that is with your sense of self still fully intact and your partener still "wanting you". I had a chance to do this and DID because I felt she wasnt right for me and was moving to another state/graduating college. I fought her for many months against her opining that i was "the one". Somewhere along the line i let myself slip back to her and it ended in disaster. BUT i could have "died" the hero had i just LEFT before the devaluation!