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Author Topic: You either die hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain  (Read 770 times)
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« on: March 25, 2013, 09:33:08 PM »

Just thought I'd add this little Harvey Dent quote from "The Dark Knight" That describes your status throughout a relationship with a BPD PERFECTLY.  Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: March 26, 2013, 01:30:48 AM »

Just thought I'd add this little Harvey Dent quote from "The Dark Knight" That describes your status throughout a relationship with a BPD PERFECTLY.  Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)

Love it!
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« Reply #2 on: March 26, 2013, 01:32:09 AM »

That $h!t's deep.
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« Reply #3 on: March 26, 2013, 08:35:31 AM »

This feeling is pretty much true of any drama triangle.
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« Reply #4 on: March 26, 2013, 09:37:35 AM »

The problem here is that there is no option to really die the hero, nobody will see you that way, especially not the person with BPD that is killing you.
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« Reply #5 on: March 26, 2013, 09:49:29 AM »

Well assuming you leave decisively during the idealization phase I think its possible to "die a hero" (that is with your sense of self still fully intact and your partener still "wanting you". I had a chance to do this and DID because I felt she wasnt right for me and was moving to another state/graduating college. I fought her for many months against her opining that i was "the one". Somewhere along the line i let myself slip back to her and it ended in disaster. BUT i could have "died" the hero had i just LEFT before the devaluation!
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