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Contrast these two message sets from her
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May 04, 2015, 08:44:15 PM »
The first is classic projection, literally EVERY single sentence is really a reflection of how she treats me
Her: You will destroy me if you must
Her: I cant trust you.
Her: You dont have my best interest at heart. You think and do evil against me.
Her: You do not protect me nor can you take care of me.
Her: I cant trust you. I will never be happy with you.
When she acknowledges some of her bad behaviour
Her: I am well taken care of by you. Im just plain lazy coz Im used to things getting done by just giving orders at home
Her: Im sorry. I give you no credit.
Her: I will make it up to you and take great care of you when youre back with me.
What I am wondering is what information does she really hold in her head? It seems there is massive accumulations of anger and hate, she can easily remember ALL the times she felt bad, when I was to blame, when I made her feel terrible BUT if I ask her about the times I did something for her, or helped her or cared for her, its as if she looks at those times with disgust too.
Are those times now also registered as negative experiences?
Does she cast a dark cloud on all our interactions?
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Hi daz_BPD,
I think there are two sides to every story.
Where's your messages?
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