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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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Author Topic: Contrast these two message sets from her  (Read 494 times)
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« on: May 04, 2015, 08:44:15 PM »

The first is classic projection, literally EVERY single sentence is really a reflection of how she treats me

Her: You will destroy me if you must

Her: I cant trust you.

Her: You dont have my best interest at heart. You think and do evil against me.

Her: You do not protect me nor can you take care of me.

Her: I cant trust you. I will never be happy with you.

When she acknowledges some of her bad behaviour

Her: I am well taken care of by you. Im just plain lazy coz Im used to things getting done by just giving orders at home

Her: Im sorry. I give you no credit.

Her: I will make it up to you and take great care of you when youre back with me.

What I am wondering is what information does she really hold in her head? It seems there is massive accumulations of anger and hate, she can easily remember ALL the times she felt bad, when I was to blame, when I made her feel terrible BUT if I ask her about the times I did something for her, or helped her or cared for her, its as if she looks at those times with disgust too. Are those times now also registered as negative experiences? Does she cast a dark cloud on all our interactions?
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« Reply #1 on: May 04, 2015, 09:09:00 PM »

Hi daz_BPD,

I think there are two sides to every story.

Where's your messages?
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