to expect to "walk her back" toward healthy thoughts and behaviors. This is so threatening to a person with paranoia.
If I used that phrase (and likely I did), what I meant to say is that I will be walking towards healthy thoughts and behaviors My wife may or may not go with me. I hope she does, but that is her choice.
If she chooses to say on the crazy train I will not ride with her.
I'm not setting a deadline, drawing a line in the sand or any of that. But I think the statements above reflect where my head is and my heart.
Oh, and yes, I agree PPD has a much lower rate of recovery that BPD.
The way is was presented by a PhD type Psychologist is that paranoia is "central" to what she is dealing with. Many other counselors and pastors have made similar comments.
I will note that paranoia seems to be tied to direct invalidation. (just my observations). Before I knew about rules and I would "prove" myself innocent, she would reach for a bigger story that I couldn't prove wrong.
Since I am pretty good at avoiding blatant direct invalidation the whopper stories of secret families, kids, bank accounts and such are gone.
I take this as a good sign. And also a testament that the "rules" work.
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