This is my first post. I just discovered this board, and hope it will provide some personal help in coping. After years of bewilderment and frustration, I'm coming to the realization that she my have BPD. I just stumbled onto this, but when I looked at the list of symptoms, it all lined up with high-functioning BPD.
We have cycles of highs and lows in our relationship, but never seem to be able to stay in a happy, sustained place.
I'm so exhausted and frustrated, but persevering. As I begin to read more of the archived material on this site, I hope something will be helpful.
Hello and welcome to the family! I'm very sorry you're going through this and my experience was similar. I had a daughter diagnosed with BPD as a teen, only to figure out years later that my ex-wife likely suffered from it as well. It's much more common than people realize and it's a heartbreaking mental health condition.
What are some of the things you've seen that make you think BPD? And have you found any help in the archives?
A lot of the time, we can't do anything about a loved one with BPD- they'll get treatment when they realize that they actually want it. We can't push though because it only makes things worse (sometimes, much worse). But we can change how we communicate and show empathy...which can also make a huge difference in turning the relationship around.
So please, ask questions, rant away, or do whatever you need to get to a better place. We're here for you regardless and there is hope!
