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« Reply #25 on: November 04, 2018, 11:49:13 PM »

Hi boogs, it's been a couple of days.  How are you doing?

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« Reply #26 on: November 06, 2018, 01:25:07 AM »

Thanks for reaching out Radcliffe. I’m not good. I don’t know what to say. I’m not good. I know about self care.... don’t worry. I’ve heard all that before.
I’m just not good...
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« Reply #27 on: November 06, 2018, 02:54:11 AM »

What is going on? Anything happened? Write it here what you are thinking. It helps.

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« Reply #28 on: November 06, 2018, 03:22:01 AM »

I’m just dealing with the same sorts of issues. His shut down. We live together but he only interacts when he wants something from me. He’s in his room a lot. I feel lonely in this relationship and my emotional needs aren’t being met. This has been going on for nearly six months now. I’m trying to be patient.... I’m trying to stand by him. I’m in a lot of emotional pain. I don’t know how to communicate with him as I feel like I’m always doing things wrong. I’m always upsetting him.

I think I’m grieving. Things are really bad at the moment.
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« Reply #29 on: November 06, 2018, 01:35:13 PM »

boogs, I'm so sorry  Virtual hug (click to insert in post)  Grieving that my relationship may never get to where I want/need it to be... well, it's just hard to describe.  I found that it takes time to work through everything, and the sadness can be so heavy on the heart.  It's not something that can be fixed with a few self care tips Frustrated/Unfortunate (click to insert in post)

If it helps to talk about how you're feeling, we're here to listen.

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« Reply #30 on: November 06, 2018, 10:45:45 PM »

That’s exactly what I’m going through Radcliffe. It’s so painful to watch someone you love who is in pain.

On a more personal note, it’s hard to know where to draw the line in my relationship. I’ve chosen to try to set the relationship aside for the time being and just let him have the time and space to do what he needs to do. He lacks empathy and hasn’t acknowledged the difficulties he’s put me through. The fact that he trashing our relationship....

I understand that there’s much more going on than what is seen on the surface and that’s why I’m trying so very hard to understand. I truly have tried...calmly and patiently with empathy. But I feel like he’s deceived me by playing a part,early in our relationship. Being something he wasn’t. No my heart is breaking whilst he shuts me out. I’m waiting on the sidelines quietly willing him on the better things....hoping..... I’m on his side always.
I think he just sees me as cold and cruel. I have no idea why.
I’ve tried seeking help but all it usually amounts to is talking to some stranger on some kind of “helpline” on the phone. Nothing tangible.... nothing real that I can touch and hold onto.... No comforting face to tell me to stay strong and things will be okay.
This is a lonely place. Empty.
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« Reply #31 on: November 09, 2018, 02:46:47 AM »

My partner is still in shut down mode. Spiraling. If I try to call he rarely answers his phone or acknowledges a text message.
I decided to reach out send him a text message asking how his day was going. He responded saying that he was feeling very low as that he was trying to doing some artwork.
I decided to ask him why he was feeling so down and what was in his mind. His response was that he was thinking about death, hopelessness,pain and anger.

I responded with...It must be hard trying to cope with that.I’m sorry that you are dealing with those emotions today. Perhaps you should speak to our doctor?
He didn’t respond back.

Did I handle that okay?

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« Reply #32 on: November 09, 2018, 06:53:18 AM »

boogs152,

I think you handled that really well, you showed your concern, you showed empathy, you made a practical suggestion and you left it to him.

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« Reply #33 on: November 09, 2018, 07:49:34 AM »

Thanks Panda. I appreciate the encouragement.


I try.
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« Reply #34 on: November 14, 2018, 11:24:04 AM »

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