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« Reply #30 on: November 06, 2018, 10:45:45 PM »

That’s exactly what I’m going through Radcliffe. It’s so painful to watch someone you love who is in pain.

On a more personal note, it’s hard to know where to draw the line in my relationship. I’ve chosen to try to set the relationship aside for the time being and just let him have the time and space to do what he needs to do. He lacks empathy and hasn’t acknowledged the difficulties he’s put me through. The fact that he trashing our relationship... .

I understand that there’s much more going on than what is seen on the surface and that’s why I’m trying so very hard to understand. I truly have tried... .calmly and patiently with empathy. But I feel like he’s deceived me by playing a part,early in our relationship. Being something he wasn’t. No my heart is breaking whilst he shuts me out. I’m waiting on the sidelines quietly willing him on the better things... .hoping... .I’m on his side always.
I think he just sees me as cold and cruel. I have no idea why.
I’ve tried seeking help but all it usually amounts to is talking to some stranger on some kind of “helpline” on the phone. Nothing tangible... .nothing real that I can touch and hold onto... .No comforting face to tell me to stay strong and things will be okay.
This is a lonely place. Empty.
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« Reply #31 on: November 09, 2018, 02:46:47 AM »

My partner is still in shut down mode. Spiraling. If I try to call he rarely answers his phone or acknowledges a text message.
I decided to reach out send him a text message asking how his day was going. He responded saying that he was feeling very low as that he was trying to doing some artwork.
I decided to ask him why he was feeling so down and what was in his mind. His response was that he was thinking about death, hopelessness,pain and anger.

I responded with... .It must be hard trying to cope with that.I’m sorry that you are dealing with those emotions today. Perhaps you should speak to our doctor?
He didn’t respond back.

Did I handle that okay?

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« Reply #32 on: November 09, 2018, 06:53:18 AM »


I think you handled that really well, you showed your concern, you showed empathy, you made a practical suggestion and you left it to him.

Nice Job!   


"Have you ever looked fear in the face and just said, I just don't care" -Pink
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« Reply #33 on: November 09, 2018, 07:49:34 AM »

Thanks Panda. I appreciate the encouragement.

I try.
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« Reply #34 on: November 14, 2018, 11:24:04 AM »

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