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Quotes From Your BPD During The End
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Reading the similar projections and quotes from our BPDs during the relationship was pretty entertaining to say the least. What are some of the things they said during the end of your relationship or when you were painted black?
Mine said some pretty hurtful projections including:
"You never loved me"
"I was just a commodity to you"
She started to ignore my texts and calls and stated that "I left her" which confused the hell out of me. Anybody else experience that it always has to be YOU that leaves them even if they are in fact the ones that left?
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I was the one to leave but the thing he repeated over and over again at the very end last night was "I was good to you, you know I was. I tried."
I am sure it was in response to me flat out saying that I didn't know why he couldn't love me right and all I wanted was honesty. Also me saying how I just kept giving and treating him well and just wanted that in return.
He handled it pretty well, wasn't nasty and wished me well but just kept saying "you know I treated you well, I was good to you and you know it"
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Mine said some pretty hurtful projections including:
"You never loved me"
"I was just a commodity to you"
She started to ignore my texts and calls and stated that "I left her" which confused the hell out of me. Anybody else experience that it always has to be YOU that leaves them even if they are in fact the ones that left?
Hmm- my ex never said those things. I felt that way regarding her behavior toward me. I still wonder all the time if she was capable of loving anyone. I also felt like I was an object filling a scripted role for her in her life.
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I think we are all characters in their madness play. Our characters develop but the script never changes. Once our character doesn't fit their role they fire us and "hire" a new one.
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"I love you soo much; we're going to get married and I'm going to have your baby; it's the greatest bond two people in love can have with eachother"
Next morning:
"My instinct is telling me that you think I'm a d**khead, and you're secretly playing me [me playing her!
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When I confronted her or other people about being painted black- "no one is going to believe YOU"
And my personal favorite- "I'm laughin at all your F*** yous"
Maddening statements at the time. There was nothing funny about any of it.
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"You bring out the bad in me... .sorry"
"you act like my ex" er yeah coz u cheated on him too perhaps?
"grow up" LOL
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"I don't know how to have friends and you."
"You're so angry. You need time to heal."
"No, this all me, no one else is responsible." -when I asked if a third party was involved.
"I can't trust my feelings." She said this several times. I think she perceives her splitting at this point. Then, "I was so sure about this. Maybe I'm doing it wrong? I'm so selfish." She broke down unable to explain her feelings. She made several motions towards her chest and stomach. She agrees to work on things instead of suddenly moving out, then goes through a dissociative period where she seems on auto-pilot. She responds very little and gets lost driving. Her eyes, like a few times before, seem empty.
"This is really me. Please stay in my life." 5 days later she cut off all contact.
I told her I loved her. With a voice like it was being dragged out of her, scratching her throat, she asked, "WHY?" It was almost a wail.
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"I guess I did not love you enough" (when she broke up, I had waited some weeks for her to (also) come to that decision)
"May I still have a baby with you?" (10 minutes later)
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"I feel that I am losing my best friend"
I never saw us ever being apart"
It's your fault we never talked"... .I made repeated effort to talk this through, go for counselling etc...
"You need to go for anger therapy!
"If you killed yourself the my life would be perfect"
"if you were a man you would leave the home"
"stop fighting in front of the children" ... .usually said at max volume at the peak of her rage.
"We were wonderful together"
"I want us to be friends"
"we could share the house"
"If you don't leave then you leave me no choice but to take the children with me"
"you are the best father I have ever seen, you are truly remarkable"
"please help me to relate to the children I cannot cope"
I am either all good or all bad. Classic B&W splitting.
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Quote from: MindfulJavaJoe on March 05, 2011, 11:31:47 AM
"I feel that I am losing my best friend"
I never saw us ever being apart"
It's your fault we never talked"... .I made repeated effort to talk this through, go for counselling etc...
"You need to go for anger therapy!
"If you killed yourself the my life would be perfect"
"if you were a man you would leave the home"
"stop fighting in front of the children" ... .said by her at max volume at the peak of her rage(not my Battle)
"We were wonderful together"
"I want us to be friends"
"we could share the house"
"If you don't leave then you leave me no choice but to take the children with me"
"you are the best father I have ever seen, you are truly remarkable"
"please help me to relate to the children I cannot cope"
I am either all good or all bad. Classic B&W splitting.
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Quote from: chad_sketch on March 05, 2011, 11:13:16 AM
I told her I loved her. With a voice like it was being dragged out of her, scratching her throat, she asked, "WHY?" It was almost a wail.
i had that as well. except when i told her "even though we can't have a relationship, I will always love you."
she responds coldly and sarcastically storming off with "cool" - last time she ever said a word to me
I responded calmly and confidently "yeah, it really is pretty cool" and smiled
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How about" Even knowing what I know now now about YOU I would marry you all over again"... .What he knows about me?
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Quote from: thinkpensive on March 05, 2011, 11:39:15 AM
Quote from: chad_sketch on March 05, 2011, 11:13:16 AM
I told her I loved her. With a voice like it was being dragged out of her, scratching her throat, she asked, "WHY?" It was almost a wail.
i had that as well. except when i told her "even though we can't have a relationship, I will always love you."
she responds coldly and sarcastically storming off with "cool" - last time she ever said a word to me
I responded calmly and confidently "yeah, it really is pretty cool" and smiled
Oh, that reminds me. Mine kept saying "I will always be yours." That always left me scratching my head because she was already banging my replacement. She said that MULTIPLE times too.
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Yup,
'you never wanted this'
'you always wanted a divorce'
'it's your fault I had the affair'
'you never wanted me, so you got what you want'
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I responded calmly and confidently "yeah, it really is pretty cool" and smiled
That was a cool-as-ice retort, dude
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Quote from: Strong Again on March 05, 2011, 01:17:54 PM
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I responded calmly and confidently "yeah, it really is pretty cool" and smiled
That was a cool-as-ice retort, dude
It was easy to do because i really meant it. And i still do. I didn't know anything about BPD or any of the cheating at the time but i would still say it in a heartbeat. All I can do is give unconditional love. If she rejects it, that's definitely not my problem. pearls before swine and all that :P
it totally infuriated her that i was always so calm. i re-read a message the other day at the breakup where she was trying to get a rise out of me and i wrote back "i don't know why you are doing this. i see that you are trying to get me angry in hopes that i will say something upsetting back, but the fact is that i love you too much and cannot"
now that i know what was really going on, she has to be kicking herself right now.
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-YOU never loved me.
-YOU did this to what was us.
-I NEVER lied, not once.
-So, have you done this to EVERYONE you've ever been with? Used them and then throw them away? YOU are ridiculous (major projection after I moved her out)
-Come back to what? YOU'VE got to be KIDDING ME! I only came back all the other times because I was hoping YOU changed.
-I'm moving on like you told me to and I'm never looking back. YOU treated me like crap. It's all about CONTROL with you, isn't it? If you don't have control, you have nothing.
-It's all YOUR fault this happened to us.
-YOU had this planned from the beginning, to move me out.
-Love? YOU don't know the first thing about love. Yes, I push people away, I have in the past. But what YOU did here to us? YOU are sick! See what happens when you treat someone else like you treated me!
-Yes, I cheated on you. LOOK how you treated ME!
-YOU have serious issue and need to take a long hard look at yourself.
-I never thought I could love someone again as much as I loved you and YOU destroyed it. YOU got what you wanted.
-Need you? I don't need you for anything. Nothing. Ever. I will make my own happiness (yes, guess she did. The day I moved her out, she was in bed with some strange guy from a bar that very night at the same time screwing her rich boss at her new job)
-YOU stole from me. YOU took things that were not yours, my laptop (she lost in the move to me), my leather dress jacket (she left at a bar without me), my jewelery (pawned and used the money for booze), my skirts you didn' want me wearing without you (she never picked up from the dry cleaners and couldn't remember where she took them).
-YOU stole MY identity!
In the very few days after I moved her out and paid for her storage 3 mon. in advance, she was saying she loved me, missed me, knew we hurt one another, no one would fill the voids, but it switched back and forth so much my head was spinning. Nothing, as in the rs, was consistent. I made offers to talk, dinner, etc. to talk things through... the more I did that, the more she pushed off. I have not seen her coming on 8 months now, but via the grapevine, she is not only still screwing her rich boss, but several others to include women. Nice. Boy, did I pick the winning ticket.
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"I'm too much of a woman for you. That's what I think!"
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Quote from: GlennT on March 06, 2011, 09:41:37 AM
"I'm too much of a woman for you. That's what I think!"
Haha I got, "Maybe you just can't handle me!". Silly BPD.
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oh oh oh, I have another one... .!
"You'll never be able to find another man like me."
(I sure as h*ll hope not!)
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my ex was "you will always want me" ... .
want you to burn in H*ll maybe... .
want you like a root canal... .
or want to have my eyes put out... .I could go on an on... .but I digress
You can fill in your own blank, as Im pretty sure they all say this... .
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"you will never see me as a friend... ." Just as she cut me off.
Always, never, always, never... .typical BPD words.
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Quote from: MM on March 06, 2011, 07:58:48 PM
"you will never see me as a friend... ." Just as she cut me off.
Always, never, always, never... .typical BPD words.
God, that's a sobering statement. I've sort of felt that I've been completely blacked, but that statement makes me wonder just how permanent that is. I'm feeling a lot stronger than when this all started, and I'm to the point where I feel that the cost is too great, but it's made it a lot easier that I haven't had to deal with the push/pull in a while. I forget sometimes just how mercurial the situation can be.
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"No one will ever love you like I did"
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One of my personal faves... .You NEVER listen to me... .after a 4 to 8 hour rage where I have been sitting there like a fool listening to his abuse and trying to defuse him
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I had a really wierd one... .Said multiple times... .with a note of anger and sadness.
"You are just going to go back to living your life"
ummm ... .I hope so ... .The alternative being?
Anybody else get that one?
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Quote from: OhTheHorror on March 06, 2011, 11:38:50 PM
I had a really wierd one... .Said multiple times... .with a note of anger and sadness.
"You are just going to go back to living your life"
ummm ... .I hope so ... .The alternative being?
Anybody else get that one?
Let me take a stab... .
She is playing the victim by saying that she was just a burden on you while in the relationship. Hence, now you can go back to having a BPD free life.
Just another "woe is me" comment. I received those too.
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Quote from: OhTheHorror on March 06, 2011, 11:38:50 PM
I had a really wierd one... .Said multiple times... .with a note of anger and sadness.
"You are just going to go back to living your life"
ummm ... .I hope so ... .The alternative being?
Anybody else get that one?
Oh yes followed by, I cant get away from me!... .well thank God I can dude.
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Please just give me one more chance. I promise this time it will be different
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