Take the Pledge

[Depression = 72% of members]

Near term goal: let go of what I can't control, pray more precisely for the things I can't, continue to love my husband the best I am able without letting the commitment ruin me to the point of taking from what our children need.

This is a horrible, terrifying goal for me. I will have mamyvweak moments especially with him battling me even from a distance and my love for him is strong.

[tarantula17]

Near term goal: let go of what I can't control, pray more precisely for the things I can't, continue to love my husband the best I am able without letting the commitment ruin me to the point of taking from what our children need.

This is a horrible, terrifying goal for me. I will have mamyvweak moments especially with him battling me even from a distance and my love for him is strong.

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RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

[Chilibean13]

My near term goal in regards to our relationship is to try to understand and validate the emotion behind my uBPD's anger. This is new and I'm going to learn how to do it appropriately.

For myself, my short term goal is to begin to experience joy again.

[RedPixie]

My near time goals are to :

Stop dumping on my friends and get quality time with them.

Stop making my partners issues my issues / stop helping or feeling like i have to involve in the drama to help him or make things better / stop fixing things and doing things which undermine his ability to do it for himself.

(Paying bills and bailing him out all the time is making him useless with money and its driving me crazy)

Validating more

Invalidating less

SET - learn more of this?

NO TO JADE - I think I'm getting this ok... .


Thank you

[revmwej]

My near term goals are;

1. End my part in the cycle of conflict.

2. Find better and more effective ways to communicate.

3. Set clear boundaries and defend them.

4. Learn more and understand BPD.

[singularity]

My near term goals are:

Understand the BPD relationship and what I can do to help the both of us.
Tell her that I love and support her and want to make a life with her, together as a team.
Be able to understand and anticipate her needs and support her in her times of need.
Be happy with her.