Good point! This is something that baffles me as well. I can answer some of those questions... .well kind of. I am paying him a car payment every month but have been mailing it. And will continue to do so.
He disgusts me & I am so disgusted with myself yet I see so clearly (now more than ever) how he manipulates. I just found out a little over a year ago that he is BPD. I have been on this rollar coaster for 7 years. Now it is abundantly clear how he rolls.
And I want nothing to do with him. But I am a rescuer

I am working on it tho. I have no desire to be with him in any way.
But yes I have alot to learn about myself. Thanks for the insight. He threw me off track but just for a moment... .so I am learning.
However, goal is not to let him push my buttons ever again.