Just saw my T this morning...

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

She's great. She reminded me that this stuff wasn't my fault. I recently had a panic attack/trigger remembering an incident between me and my ex... .my T told me that next time this happens, sit down, take ten deep breaths and remember that it wasn't my fault.

It was an emotional session today but I feel better.

I think that's part of the issue in a relationship with a BPD person - they have a way of twisting everything around to make us think we did something wrong. I found myself apologizing for things I had no control over - noises outside, people talking loudly, sirens, thunder... .sheesh it sounds ridiculous saying it now, but at the time all I wanted was to make her feel safe.

[SpringInMyStep]

She's great. She reminded me that this stuff wasn't my fault. I recently had a panic attack/trigger remembering an incident between me and my ex... .my T told me that next time this happens, sit down, take ten deep breaths and remember that it wasn't my fault.

It was an emotional session today but I feel better.

I think that's part of the issue in a relationship with a BPD person - they have a way of twisting everything around to make us think we did something wrong. I found myself apologizing for things I had no control over - noises outside, people talking loudly, sirens, thunder... .sheesh it sounds ridiculous saying it now, but at the time all I wanted was to make her feel safe.