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« Reply #30 on: December 23, 2014, 01:28:21 AM »

Mind's was... ."Everything Happens for a Reason"
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« Reply #31 on: December 23, 2014, 02:41:42 AM »

"My exes all called me Jekyll and Hyde."   

"I have a shelf life, I'm just no good after the honeymoon period."   

Yes, truly a red flag. I know you will run next time someone tells you that.  Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)

My ex said she was a bit Jekyll and Hyde on the first phone chat.  She said it is normal for the Gemini personality.  Should have clicked the phone off then.
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« Reply #32 on: December 23, 2014, 03:03:49 AM »

"I PROMISE that I will never hurt you."

"Oh, no... .no... .there isn't anyone else."
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« Reply #33 on: December 23, 2014, 01:33:53 PM »

"I never lie and never cheat"

"You know I love you don't you"

"You are lucky to be with me because I look so much younger than you"

"If you think you can do better"

"A leader takes the responsibility not the credit"

"I was counseling her about her relationship"

Ugg gross what can I say
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« Reply #34 on: December 23, 2014, 07:14:58 PM »

Here's one:

"Relationships are complicated.  We all have insecurities... ."
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« Reply #35 on: December 23, 2014, 09:48:30 PM »

"I would never hurt you" Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #36 on: December 23, 2014, 10:10:28 PM »

"Insanity is the definition of doing the same thing and expecting a different result."   

"It was not my intent to hurt you.  I wasn't trying to be malicious."

"I hate most people."   

"Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'" = this one really pointed at the ASPD's propensity toward boredom and thrill seeking behavior as a result of that.  I would bungee jump as a thrill, he preferred drug abuse and criminal behavior.  Blechhh!

Actually, there are so many others and I'm happy to report that the memories of them are actually fading a few.  Thank god!
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« Reply #37 on: December 25, 2014, 02:58:07 PM »

"Our differences being so pronounced that we are unable to go through life entwined as one."

I wonder, if she married herself, would she be happy?
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« Reply #38 on: December 25, 2014, 03:56:46 PM »

"Our differences being so pronounced that we are unable to go through life entwined as one."

I wonder, if she married herself, would she be happy?

hee... hee... .

Think about what you just said... .

That would be like a splitting atom!   
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« Reply #39 on: December 25, 2014, 03:57:58 PM »

Mine constantly would say "This is getting complicated" when I would insist on presenting issues/emotions etc from my perspective in the (now acknowledged misguided) hope that he'd start to appreciate it from another's point of view.

Yep, must have been complicated, having to consider anyone other than your twisted self.

Oh yeah, and 'Come on! It's ME you're talking to', when he was challenged or doubted in any way. Apparently this was to comfort me and reinforce that he was such a GOOD guy, how could I ever have any issue with his inconsistent/irrational/inconsiderate and ultimately abusive behaviour.

I don't miss him one bit.
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« Reply #40 on: December 25, 2014, 04:30:25 PM »

"I know how relationships are suppose to go" haha... .

"You never... ." "you always... ."

"You don't make me feel special anymore"

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« Reply #41 on: December 25, 2014, 04:30:38 PM »

(Well I'm really needing you to trust me, I love you and want things to be great for us)
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In the eye for an eye game, he who cares least, wins. I, for one. am never stepping into the ring with someone who is impulsive and doesn't think of the downstream consequences.
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« Reply #42 on: December 25, 2014, 04:32:02 PM »

"I'm usually destructive in relationships but I know I won't ever feel that way about you"

"People always get fed up with me, roll their eyes at me and walk away from me"

"If you thought my nasty comments were to hurt you, you don't know me that well. I was nasty because I have an illness"

Just a few of the many things said that ride in on a red flag and waving red flags in both hands for good measure.
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« Reply #43 on: December 25, 2014, 06:24:25 PM »

"Insanity is the definition of doing the same thing and expecting a different result."   

"It was not my intent to hurt you.  I wasn't trying to be malicious."

"I hate most people."   

"Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'" = this one really pointed at the ASPD's propensity toward boredom and thrill seeking behavior as a result of that.  I would bungee jump as a thrill, he preferred drug abuse and criminal behavior.  Blechhh!

Actually, there are so many others and I'm happy to report that the memories of them are actually fading a few.  Thank god!

Ha my ex would use the same insanity idoism. When I tried to give him theactual ddefinition in the past he argued me down say I was wrong.
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« Reply #44 on: December 25, 2014, 10:20:10 PM »

"You don't listen"

"If you don't like it, there's the door"

"Go be with someone else"

"Roger that" (he was often a real smart ass)

He would often pick apart my words and in the middle of an argument get his phone and look up the definition of a word I used, or a word he used, to prove that he was using it in the correct way. Everything was so black and white with him. And if you were black (wrong) he was the first to let you know. And he often couldn't let it go, even after an apology or acknowledgment.
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« Reply #45 on: December 26, 2014, 05:48:46 AM »

"It was never my intention... ."

"You always make me feel better"

"I would never hurt you"

"You always make me smile"

"I love you.  I miss you"

"I'm done"  This was usually said every single day whenever someone challenged her Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)

"I'm an outcast"  Hmmmm... .Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #46 on: December 26, 2014, 06:27:12 AM »

Heh Heh Heh this is a goody

"I'm not desperate you know 'Roller'"

"I am always alone and never talk to anyone day after day" which would flip to "I talk to people all day every day, women too, and they think the same as I do about you and your family"

"I need company"

"Relationships get boring after a while, especially living in suburbia"

"I am a good man, the best you will ever meet, you wont ever meet a man as good as me I'm the best there is"


"If you don't... .I will find another woman who will"

"you don't make me feel special", (all whilst he continued to abuse, humiliate and insult me and repeatedly ruining any good moments we had together).

"I only became homeless after I met you", (when he met me he was homeless 2 years apparently and it was his brother and parents fault). As it turned out, he wasn't homeless at all, had been coming and going from his parents for 13 years prior to meeting me as a friend (and crashing on my sofa as a friend at first).

"That's why I left  you, because I thought you were leaving me for 'him." Note; I left BP not the other way around. And here he is making out that I was having an affair with a male that I was friends with and had employed as a casual worker for my business. It is interesting to note that last year whilst BP was dishing out 4 months of Silent Treatment after dumping me yet again, (after assaulting me, damaging my car, threatening my life and smashing my phone and other property) he then turned up out of the blue and began asking questions as to whether I had made any new friends.

I explained that I had indeed, that he was a male, and I had been paying him to complete extra painting labour for my business. I added that it was not a romance, never would be, and there had been no propositioning of any kind. He then said, "Is that the guy with the blonde hair?", (this confirmed my suspicions that BP had been stalking me whilst he was ignoring me).

"I really do love you Roller", (pfft yea right you do).

"I'm not going anywhere, I'm not going to leave you ever, you will have to leave me if anyone is going to be leaving".

"Your a fat greedy *^%$$$$#$"

"you only want the money, you want my money",
(which explains why he took all mine and never had a job).

"every woman left me and cheated on me, so what it doesn't worry me".

"I'm from a good family, I come from a good background, my Father is a Scientist practically, and my Mother is a Schoolteacher"

total Narcissist act.

"I'm an educated person, I have a degree, I'm not some idiot like you"

"I'm a desperate man, stealing is perfectly justified for me".

God, there is likely more, but I'll leave it there!
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« Reply #47 on: December 26, 2014, 06:39:05 AM »

Her: "I never break up with people. I wait for them to do it.", my response: "Oh right, so you won't be responsible for it? So it's not your fault and you can blame the other and be angry at them?", her: "Yes, exactly." I mind you this was in the third week of our relationship. Why was I being so stupid and didn't see the red flag? Or I guess I just ignored it and believed with me it would be different. Oh my.
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« Reply #48 on: December 26, 2014, 07:01:12 AM »

how about... .

forget it... .

I don't want to talk about it... .

don't bring that up tonight... .

lets just be peaceful tonight... .

ALWAYS after scary abusive rage episodes with lots of verbal abuse aimed at me!
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« Reply #49 on: December 26, 2014, 07:09:04 AM »

I don't want to talk about it... .

^^^ Yeah this
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« Reply #50 on: December 26, 2014, 07:09:45 AM »

"It was just one mistake" (Sorry Pythagoras, count again)

"Kinda, Maybe, I think, sorta, etc" NEVER could pin him down with definitive answers.

"You're crazy".

"That's not what I said" (and then show him the EMAIL where he typed EXACTLY what I said he said only for him to say: That's not what I said... .look me in the eye, w the email in my hand and say "I didn't say that"... .and then changed the subject)

Exh was more of a gaslighting, silent treatment abuser...
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« Reply #51 on: December 26, 2014, 07:15:59 AM »

"I know I'm not perfect, I'm a work in progress." ~ that's putting it lightly

"You're insecure." ~ well, 3 years of lies, emotional affairs, and you moving in and out of the house will do that to someone

"I'm a good catch.  I will find someone who appreciates all that I do." ~ if you can find someone who appreciates "all that you do" good luck to you and them."  
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« Reply #52 on: December 26, 2014, 08:25:54 AM »

After 5 years of living with my uBPDH through the idealization, devaluation and discard phase, with him moving out yet again (3rd time) in a rage last Feb, very LC (with any contact initiated by me) I emailed him to wish he and his kids a Merry Christmas. I got back "I know you are hurting. I would do anything to take the pain away from you. But I have to live the life my heart tells me to live".

Yea well clearly he would NOT do anything. Because that would mean accepting some (ANY) responsibility for the problems. It would mean sometimes saying "Im Sorry". It would mean not putting the blame for everything on me. Or making up scenarios in his mind to justify his rage!
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« Reply #53 on: December 26, 2014, 08:46:38 AM »

Exh was more of a gaslighting, silent treatment abuser...

That's how mine was.  Had no clue either.  I bought everything - hook, line, and sinker.  Even though I always had doubts as to her recollection of things.  I just learned how to navigate her by just dealing and taking it.  The alternative was usually far worse.  And often, if I caved to her gaslighting, that girl I was nuts about would turn up for a while.  Rinse/repeat.
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« Reply #54 on: December 26, 2014, 09:04:07 AM »

i cheated but because you made me to.

you're crazy, you made me look crazy. i managed to get through it now (after the break up).

you are a liar, manipulator, possesive, jealous freak.  

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« Reply #55 on: December 26, 2014, 09:20:16 AM »

"You want me to make my life dependent on yours and your wishes. But you know, I've got a life of my own." It actually was the other way round but oh well... .PROJECTION.
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« Reply #56 on: December 26, 2014, 10:14:07 AM »

I'll never cheat on you.

I know what your thinking, see I know you better than anyone.

Who is the leader here you or me? (screaming)

Your nothing but a drama queen.


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« Reply #57 on: December 26, 2014, 10:25:07 AM »

Oh yes,

Your the crazy one.

I am done!

You and your friends! (he had none!)

You think you can find someone better, go do it!

Quit trying to mother my kids!

You think your so perfect?
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« Reply #58 on: December 26, 2014, 10:46:26 AM »

"I hate cheaters and  liars"

" A bottle of wine is only four glasses"
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« Reply #59 on: December 26, 2014, 11:08:35 AM »

"You have any smokes? I'm out."

Those were actually her last spoken words to me. Such a heartfelt and bittersweet goodbye, isn't it? 

This may sound trivial, but with every prior relationship I've been in, there was some sort of 'goodbye' interaction. With her, through all 4 break ups, she had all the emotion of someone taking the garbage out.
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