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I'm in Utah, picking up d13 for a home visit, been up since 3am. Thrilled to see her and have her come home, nervous too. I have a plan for the week, keep it family focused, not too many events, yet keep it planned and organized. I'm so afraid she will cut. Then I will feel as if we/have failed. What would it say if after all this therapy she has done, I've done that simply coming home into her own loving environment would trigger her to cut? I will be walking on eggshells, not For fear of angry outbursts, she doesn't have them. But for fear she will not find peace enough at home to not want to self harm. I just want this visit to be spectacularly successful, I know it's unrealistic of me to want that. I am expecting bumps and will manage those. I just want them to be bumps and not cliffs. In home therapist coming on Wednesday, so we have support. I'll have today alone with her in Utah before we head back east tomorrow. Looking forward to some down time one on one with her. I'll be updating.
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don't put too much pressure on yourself or dd... . just enjoy being together. I will tell you when my dd came home recently from RTC she cried and cried for the first few days. All the emotions came bubbling to the surface so be prepared for that. She has been through a lot and just wants to share her experience with you. I am so happy for you. Go slow and don't overwhelm her with places to go etc... . also don't try and buy her a lot of things either... . just keep things calm and laid back. I hope all goes well... . I am sure she missed you a great deal... .
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and don't forget validation is your best friend for this
so happy for you Cici.
Cheers,
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ps looking forward to your updates. Don't forget you can use us as a sounding board.
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Quick update just got home from RTc in Utah for family visit, spent all day with d13 at hotel had a really good day and the evening at home has been smooth. We are keeping it low key and sticking to the same routine she had at the RTC as much as possible. Tomorrow meeting with in home therapist and planning and cooking family dinner. This is all good.
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Such a good beginning. Praying for a good middle and return.
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Why don't you start a new post with the updates on how it goes with this new phase - a good middle and return... . ? A new start.
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Good suggestion Vivek I'll do that, I'll start a new thread. It's appropriate now. We are starting a new phase and I'm no longer questioning the decision... . now I'm invested in it. I'll start one later tonight with an update.
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