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« on: August 24, 2008, 06:16:17 PM » |
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This is a test developed at Stanford University by David Burns, MD. Burns is best known for his book "Feeling Good" which is used in most commonly used support text for CBT programs. It is a very simple test to take ... . What is your total score? Let us know in the poll above and tell us (post) whether you feel good or are you struggling from effects of the BP relationship? 0= Not at all 1=Somewhat 2=Moderately 3=A lot 4=Extremely ------- 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 | ------- 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 | ------- 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 | ------- 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 | ------- 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 | ------------------------------------ Feeling sad or down in the dumps? Feeling unhappy or blue? Crying spells or tearfulness? Feeling discouraged? Feeling hopeless? Low self esteem? Feeling worthless or inadequate? Guilt or shame? Criticizing yourself or blaming yourself? Difficulty making decisions? Loss of interest in family or friends? Loss of motivation? Loss of interest in work or other activities? Loss of pleasure or satisfaction in life? Feeling tired? Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much? Decreased or increased appetite? Loss of interest in sex? Worry about your health? Do you have any suicidal thoughts? Would you like to end your life? Do you have a plan for harming yourself? |
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« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2008, 07:00:02 PM » |
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Hi Skip,
I scored a 32. I am four months out. Overall, I would say I'm much better than I was six or eight weeks ago. Things are a bit complicated from a healing perspective because I work with my ex and have to collaborate and communicate at times (not a ton, usually brief). Instead of feeling blue or anxious every day, I am now able to go for 3-5 days at a time feeling fairly well.
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« Reply #3 on: August 24, 2008, 07:24:31 PM » |
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I am at 16... not too bad. I think I would have been MUCH higher a few months ago... so where is the info that tells what the results mean?
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« Reply #4 on: August 24, 2008, 07:25:37 PM » |
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I scored 21, but I am in a place right now where things vary from day to day and situation to situation. If I'm really busy, it tends to be better mostly. But T says to deal with this stuff as it comes so am trying to do that too. I think depending on the day, my score would vary somewhat.
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« Reply #5 on: August 24, 2008, 07:53:56 PM » |
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ditto on what SS said. I think some days my score is much lower depending on the events of the day.
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« Reply #6 on: August 24, 2008, 08:10:15 PM » |
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I scored a 10, so if I were a gymnist, I would take home the gold, right?
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« Reply #7 on: August 24, 2008, 09:19:50 PM » |
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19.
But this doesn't address anger, which is my biggest issue. Separated 20 months, divorced 1 month. I'm less angry than a few weeks ago but if I let myself I can still get pretty mad, and replay a lot of stuff. That doesn't show up here.
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« Reply #8 on: August 24, 2008, 11:10:06 PM » |
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I scored a 46. Honestly, it has nothing to do with my BPD relationship. He's been gone nearly 8 years. I'm happy he's gone and I don't even think about him all that much anymore (thank GOD.) I am truly at a place (and have been for awhile) where I don't care about him -- good or bad.
The rub comes in that I have never put my life back together after the shell shock of that whole mess. That has nothing to do with crazyx. I'm just still stuck in some strange place of not being happy, but not really being unhappy. I'm just here -- going through the motions of life without much engagement on my part. I keep telling myself that I'm sick of this limbo, yet I do nothing to change it. So... .that's on ME and has nothing to do with crazyx.
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« Reply #9 on: August 25, 2008, 12:16:43 AM » |
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Well, between an 18 and a 20. (I took it earlier and got a 20, just took it again and got an 18.)
It doesn't have much to do with my exh, more so with my current state of affairs... . job seeking, also the difficulties of my bf this year. He had surgery and a succession of various health problems which have taxed both of us emotionally and financially, as well as taxing him physically.
But I do feel that I got into some of the problems with him because I didn't "learn" from my marriage.
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« Reply #10 on: August 25, 2008, 05:59:20 AM » |
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I scored 44.
In the beginning stages of disengaging and having child access issues. Not suicidal or anything remotely close. Most high numbers stemming from day to day activities. Sleeping, eating, motivation, lost interest in socializing and family and friends.
I know I will get out of this thanks to a strong will and my BPD family.
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« Reply #11 on: August 25, 2008, 08:43:05 AM » |
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I scored a low 12,
but then again, I'm basically an optimistic person, so much of that would rarely apply to me at any time (ok, besides the eating too much and sleeping poorly). I still speak with friends and family. I still engage in activities with my children. I still make plans. I don't blame myself or feel badly about my decisions.
Of course, there are days when my uBPbf is raging, that I can get discouraged and down, but I manage to pull myself out (with the help of this place and friends) to a better frame of mind.
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« Reply #12 on: August 25, 2008, 08:47:35 AM » |
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i got 20... .doing pretty good these days, trying to stay optimistic... .tying to stay motivated.
Lonely, but, dealing with that... .I do have a real tendancy to wayyyyy overthink everything, have a hard time shutting my brain down.
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« Reply #13 on: August 25, 2008, 08:55:35 AM » |
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I scored 18.
I have to make a phone call this morning. It is no doubt a FOO problem. Sometimes I don't let myself know how I feel?
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« Reply #14 on: August 25, 2008, 08:57:44 AM » |
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I got 15 which is about right. I am very sad about my father. But my brother and I are in regular contact again and we are both very happy about that.
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« Reply #15 on: August 25, 2008, 09:40:36 AM » |
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23 However that would be 17 if I don't count the Work-Related questions... . I am at the end of my contract. I am doing 5% of the work I used to do; and it's all routine now. I am just sitting at a desk 80% of the time, waiting till someone has a question. OFCOURSE I AM BORED AT THE JOB As a result I stay up late (to have SOME brainfood in my life) and don't get enough sleep... . ... .or maybe I am in denial
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« Reply #16 on: August 25, 2008, 11:07:58 AM » |
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Scored a 4.
Life is good.
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« Reply #17 on: August 25, 2008, 11:13:09 AM » |
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I got an 11, which I makes me happy. It could be so much worse, all things considered. It's just hard for me to feel too bad about things right now. I am still so happy that I made the decision to get out that any of the problematic stuff doesn't have much effect on my overall sense of wellbeing.
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« Reply #18 on: August 25, 2008, 11:41:31 AM » |
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52 Sheesh : At least I can put zeros on all the self-harm questions. I can't imagine what I would have gotten if I'd taken it this time last year, so things are headed in the right direction.
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« Reply #19 on: August 25, 2008, 01:14:54 PM » |
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You are still in the midst of OZ sailmonky. Thinks can get better,
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« Reply #21 on: August 25, 2008, 02:01:57 PM » |
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I scored a 2! I wish I could have taken this test two years ago! Looking back, I would have scored so high, the authorities would probably have been called! pizaluvr
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« Reply #22 on: August 25, 2008, 02:16:59 PM » |
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Thanks LivingWell, things have been getting better for several months now. I'm finding my way out of the FOG. This test has helped me narrow down those things that are still an issue for me. I think finding a different kind of work is the most pressing thing on my agenda right now. My Myers-Briggs type specifically says I shouldn't have been working in the field I'd been in for 9 years... . : That should really make things better.
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« Reply #23 on: August 29, 2008, 12:51:22 AM » |
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50. -sigh- Still dealing with the FOO and doing my best to be NC with momster and grandmomster. My T thinks I'm at the point where I'm afraid of getting better and just going for it, and he's likely right. I keep trying to find new neuroses to take the place of the old ones. : But I'm much better than I was a year ago and more.
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« Reply #24 on: August 29, 2008, 07:20:00 AM » |
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I scored a 2! I wish I could have taken this test two years ago! Looking back, I would have scored so high, the authorities would probably have been called! pizaluvr ditto for me. I scored a two, but I have been seperated for almost 19 months and divorce is final, marital home sold, etc. If I had taken it two years ago, I would have been off the chart... .
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« Reply #25 on: August 29, 2008, 06:34:44 PM » |
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I took the test again to see how I am feeling this week because I think I've had a better week than the last. I scored a 22 (improved from a 32). I hope to see a score that keeps trending downward. I'm tired of thinking I'm doing better only to have a spike in the misery scale come out of nowhere. Even though that is normal, it is discouraging.
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« Reply #26 on: August 29, 2008, 11:45:17 PM » |
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54 Oh dear! Better get out and have some fun. Taking the kids to karaoke this afternoon.
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« Reply #27 on: August 30, 2008, 11:54:49 AM » |
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I scored a 27. Issues with job and lack of good healthcare benefits... .need oral surgery and should have benefits to cover it, but my benefits ... suck. Been looking at jobs, but want to find a good fit... .I love what I do and deserve to be paid better! Have to refinance the house (commercial property) and need to rezone or pay higher interest rates, than have to deal with 2-3 year maturity refinancing. Having a bit of difficulty making decisions... .BUT I think underneath all of this is I have a FOO issue surfacing about worth... .self worth... .and deserving to have security and stability in my life. Guess its just another journey into getting back to being more Whole... .need to spend some time trying to re-connect with my journey in life... .want to find that happiness in life that is at the core no matter what life throws at me... .this external stuff should not be a downer, so I am search for that core stuff again... . got sort of sidetracked with the BPD 'thing' coming back home to ME... .Reneeth
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« Reply #28 on: August 31, 2008, 11:42:48 PM » |
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Very interesting... .I scored a 2... .But I'm over 4 years out and have really rebuilt my life to better then before the evil one showed up in it... .I'm very happy and I love the way my life is going... .I also have, for the most part, a good outlook on life and have always felt that if life isn't going the way you want, It's up to you to live into the life you want... .do something about it and create the life you want... .That helped a great deal.
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« Reply #29 on: September 01, 2008, 12:22:11 PM » |
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I got a 20 today... .very basic test! :
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